• Mighty@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    dude, calm down. maybe it’s you? I changed my name while staying in the same job. 400 people had to learn my new name. i work in a school, so i told all the kids and the teachers. i go to a dance party every week, i’ve known the people there for years. one day i was like “hey this is my name now”. i didn’t cut ties with a single person and nobody has ever attacked me. maybe you’re just a terrible person?

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      Changing from a “black name” to a common American name is controversial. You’re supposed to be proud of the African equivalent to Renesmeeigh. Everyone thinks it’s “pretty” and “righteous” and “meaningful” and I just have self hatred. I actually grew to love myself after getting rid of that ugly crap.

      You’re right, I am terrible for not wanting a slavery tradition as my name. I refuse to live as a victim of suffering I’ve never endured. I was not a slave or a child of a slave. I’m American as fuck, give me an American name.

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        I never said that. You know that your comment is in bad faith. If you don’t tell people your old name then they cannot have any comments about it

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          Having a slavery tradition name feels like stolen valor anyway like that wasn’t my story to tell why am I named like it is. I might as well larp as a Palestinian who survived a bombing, for attention. It’s horrible. Yet it’s forced on me.

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          The community that is assigned to me is incredibly bigoted. Anti LGBT, antisemitic, Islamophobic, racist, xenophobic, ableist, you name it, it’s turned up to 11 in there.

          On the outside we’re made to look so welcoming to our “brothers and sisters” but in reality it’s a war zone.

          THEY treat cis name changes like it’s worse than genocide, and once again I’ve normalized something no one else experiences. God I wish I was white

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            3 days ago

            “if you can pronounce Tchaikovsky, Michaelangelo, and Volodymyr Zelenskyy, then you can pronounce Preightynleigh-McKhanzlynn”