A man jailed for fo[u]r years claims he is still a good dad despite offering his son cocaine and trying to get him to have sex with a 26-year-old prostitute.

“Don’t be a p[u]ssy” the man told his son after he organised for two sex workers to visit a hotel in Bromley, Greater London. The young lad, who cannot be named, bravely told his dad “I’m f***ing 13, that’s ridiculous” when he was offered a line of cocaine.

At his sentencing hearing, the man told Croydon Crown Court he is a great father, despite appearing to have some weird and very skewed views on what is good parenting. "I’m a good father,” he insisted, after he pleaded guilty to arranging for a child to engage in sexual activity as well as offering to supply cocaine.

He told the court: "I might not look like it in your eyes. It was only because he was feeling down because he’d broken up with his girlfriend and he said he’d done all that stuff before.

He added: “So the brass sucked his p****. Job done. Whatever.”

Source (archive, as it is the oo-ah-Daily Star)

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    ಠ_ಠ

    “I’m fucking 13, that’s ridiculous” is a fucking hilarious thing to say to your father when he offers you a line of cocaine.

    Jesus christ, what a ludicrous scenario. I hope the kid turns out alright inspite of his dad being kinda batshit

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    What is this country coming to that you can pressure your adolescent son into doing cocaine and having sex with a prostitute and be called a bad farther? It’s not trauma, it’s character building!

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    You know, I never thought that the kind of storylines in Guy Ritchie movies were realistic but I guess it’s just a British thing.

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    "The dad added that the sex workers were already in a taxi so it was too late to cancel, Ms Benson said. When the two women arrived the dad told them his son was 18 years old.

    The boy was then taken to a separate room where he reluctantly allowed a 26-year-old sex worker to perform a sex act on him, the court heard. In a police statement the boy said he didn’t want to do it and he was left feeling disgusted."

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    an “oddball dad”? woah there, are we even allowed to use that kind of language in publications?

    wildly irresponsible. if encouraged by this, next time people hear about someone who sexually assaults their own child, they might even call them quirky, or worse, wacky!

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      It’s strange that the sex workers aren’t criticised at all, given that they raped a 13 year old. I’d expect them to be in a wee bit of bother.

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      I imagine they have seen their fair share of reluctant grooms on stag dos and, unless he actually told then he was 13, they had been told he was 18. So technically a crime but he CPS presumably felt it was murky enough that a conviction might be tricky. Unless they were convicted and that bastion of news reporting the Daily Star didn’t bother mentioning it because it wasn’t a good story.

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        I get the feeling that if I fucked a a thirteen year old girl that “I thought she was 18” isn’t really going to cut it in court.

        I would think that the identity of the sex workers is unknown and that’s how they’ll be avoiding prosecution.

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        You know, I don’t think the reluctant grooms make it better. Maybe I just have high moral standards, but I don’t care if you’re being paid to sexually assault someone, you don’t engage in sexual contact with people against their will. I can buy the claims he’s 18, I developed young and had friends who developed slow so maybe he did sound like a grown ass man or something, but still he clearly didn’t want it

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      Right? The solid response from the kid makes me think the dad does indeed have some good dad qualities.

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      I’m yet to read that, but I thought he shied away from anything even vaguely sexual, on account of his culty religion?

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        Definitely not. He doesn’t do sex scenes or erotic depictions of sexuality, but sexual mores and sexual violence are often depicted in his books when fitting. In Mistborn the nobility’s tendency to inflict sexual violence upon the underclass is a major theme because the magic is genetically heritable and the government attempts to keep it constrained to the nobility.

        The most Mormon his books get is the world building of the stormlight archive, but even then there’s a ton of alcohol consumption, despite the fact that the author has never partaken.

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            And I should add, there’s also romance, both straight and gay. Even extramarital. You have heroes that are promiscuous and cultures where sex isn’t frowned upon outside marriage so long as there’s even a simple oath between them. There are full on descriptions of how hot Vin finds Elend or how hot everyone finds Kaladin. The only real place his Mormonism shows up in his romance writing is that he’s personally uncomfortable writing polyamory and chooses not to at the moment no matter how well he accidentally wrote the sort of love triangle that resolves into an MMF triad.

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              The only real place his Mormonism shows up in his romance writing is that he’s personally uncomfortable writing polyamory

              Ha. You’d think for a Mormon the opposite would be true, given the religion’s history!

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                That’s very explicitly the reason why. When he writes romance it’s done with a level of respect for his female characters that’s rare in fantasy novels in my experience. He doesn’t want to be associated with the FLDS or the ownership of wives by husbands, he wants his female characters to have autonomy and to exert their will on the narrative. And so yeah he’s not even going to give Shallan and Adolin their tall broody (depressed and traumatized) superhero doctor in shining armor boyfriend because of it.

                Vin and her boyfriend both pursued each other and worried they’re not good enough for the other. Shallan (whom the fandom ships into a threesome) arranged a political marriage by her skill as a scholar and apprenticeship as a scholar to the Princess before eventually falling in love with her husband who’s smitten with her. And on that note Jasnah is a princess who’s always been more concerned with scholarship than men (very ace coded) and is an atheistic character written with the level of respect he wishes atheists would write religious characters, she’s not foolish, merely incorrect. Then there’s Elantris where Sarene is a princess engaged in political marriage against her father’s wishes, because she sees it as a good move for their kingdom and he’s concerned about her happiness. Warbreaker is the story of a woman rejecting the political marriage she was raised for and her rebellious sister learning to navigate the life she was stuck in as a result.

                Also shout out to the gay interspecies relationship in Stormlight between two nerdy men (in the setting scholarship and literacy are considered extremely feminine, which is in itself a feminist statement about men hampering themselves for masculinity)

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    Best dad ever (but only from the point of view of the 13 year old boy)

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      … his father paid a woman to sexually assault him and pressured his son to concede. He’s 13 years old. That’s sexual assault no matter the circumstances. His father is fucking sick and should be in prison.

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        He is:

        The judge sentenced him to four years in prison for arranging a child sex offence.

        The dad will be subject to sex offence notification requirements for life and was given a 10-year SHPO.

        And won’t be allowed unsupervised contact with children for ten years.

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          Out of interest, what does UK law have to say about the sex workers in this case? Where I live age of consent is 16, but I believe it’s a defence to have reasonably believed they were over that age. However that defence can only be used to a certain point. I forget if it’s 14 or 12.

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            It’s unclear in this case because the Daily Star is not known for the quality of their reporting. It is likely that the Crown Prosecution Service felt that the fact that they’d been lied to would make the prospect of a conviction tricky and they decided not to press charges. I wonder if they’d feel the same if the sexes were reversed.

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              It is likely that the Crown Prosecution Service felt that the fact that they’d been lied to would make the prospect of a conviction tricky and they decided not to press charges

              Oh yeah for sure. Possibly also a matter of the bad press they’d receive and the fact that they want the sex workers’ cooperation with prosecuting the father. I was more interested in the hypothetical of could they be charged.

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        No shit. Should’ve known someone would get rattled by a dumb joke.

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            Most kids I knew would think you’re gay or something if you bring up the legal ramifications of teacher banging at the lunchtable

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              Yes, teenage boys are notorious for brushing off the harm done by the statutory sexual assault of their peers. But if we’re going to start taking sexual violence against men seriously we have to take sexual violence against men seriously. The boy in the article was well below the age of consent and did not want to engage in the sex acts that his father pushed him to perform. If it was a 13 year old girl it would be nearly universally recognized as horrible (even if her friends thought it was really cool and were envious).

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          Can you explain your joke to me?