I’ve been lurking on Bsky, a new replacement for social media, and women seem to be entirely uninterested in talking to men in most cases. They’ll say that things like they’re looking for new female friends, they love seeing beautiful women in their feed, they reply to other women who comment on their posts… But they tend to ignore men entirely. Even if a guy is just being platonic or speaking in a similar manner to a woman, they’re completely ignored. To test this, I changed my profile picture to that of a female anime avatar but I didn’t change my tone or manner of speaking at all. All of a sudden, I had people replying to me, saying nice things, being responsive to me. It’s like they assumed I was female, so I was ok to respond to.

Why do women avoid men so much?

  • CTDummy@lemm.ee
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    23 hours ago

    Given a non insignificant amount of women migrated to Bluesky because of thinly veiled threats of SA from xitter; meeting strange blokes online probably isn’t high on the “must do” list. Hell even without the xitter shitfight that probably holds.

    Even if a guy is just being platonic or speaking in a similar manner to a woman

    This probably comes from a life with no shortage of blokes trying to get their foot in the door under the guise of “friendship”.

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      21 hours ago

      This probably comes from a life with no shortage of blokes trying to get their foot in the door under the guise of “friendship”.

      So if a guy talks plainly and non-aggressively, like a normal and rational person with no insensitive comments or uncomfortable flirting… They can’t be friends? I guess that’s my confusion. I remember the world when I grew up being a bit more simple.

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        16 hours ago

        Not when all your other mates all tried the same thing, then flipped completely.

        The world when you grew up was filled with men doing this exact thing, the concept of the friend zone has been around forever and even before that, women didn’t really have a choice.

        Plenty of men who didn’t take no for an answer, and wore down the woman until they said yes.

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        21 hours ago

        They can, once the two meet. But the women are often in situations where nine other men have seemed to be doing that, then got creepy. So for their safety they don’t engage.