• The Picard Maneuver@lemmy.worldOPM
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    7 hours ago

    Obviously women can also commit crimes against men, but its so much less common that I don’t have to take precautions to protect myself against them.

    Yeah, I’ve never had second-thoughts about walking past some dangerous-looking women or checking over my shoulder to make sure some woman isn’t following me home. This is a regular thing that women deal with, and pretending that the experiences are anywhere close to equivalent is odd.

    • Obinice@lemmy.world
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      4 hours ago

      You don’t live in a very dangerous area, then.

      I keep an eye on everyone, even a woman with a kid in a pram (assuming the pram isn’t just an empty decoy) could try to mug you, people get desperate and chavs get violent. Always keep your head on a swivel, don’t trust anyone at face value just because of their gender or what they look like.

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      6 hours ago

      It’s dark and night, how can you tell gender?

      People are afraid of anything in these situations, but they justify it by using men as an excuse, even though, you wouldn’t tell it’s man or women, until it’s too late anyways….

      • flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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        3 hours ago

        It is not an “excuse.” If I’m attacked by a man at night, I will have a more difficult time protecting myself than if a man was attacked at night, on average. Not to mention that you have to ask yourself, what is the attacker after? Because being sexually assaulted or raped is so personal and awful that it’s natural to have a higher amount of fear of that outcome.

        Like how if you were equally likely of being jumped at night by a stranger as you were of being abducted and having spiky metal spears shoved in your urethra… you might recognize that’s it’s not super likely you’ll get jumped, but you would be way less likely to risk it since the fact that sounding is just too awful to chance (for the vast majority of the population).

        Also… my sample size is too small to be statistically relevant, but 100% of the men I know are sure they could “take” a random female attacker.

        Unrelated; asking that question was difficult but not for the reason I expected. It was like a game! “Do I have super powers in this scenario?” “Is she armed? Am I armed?” “How much time do I have to prepare?” And my personal favorite, from a particularly well-traveled friend- “Is she like a random person, or one of my exes?”

        Edit: The last guy has crunched the numbers and decided he could take all of his exes, unless they team up, which he thinks is unlikely, so I’m continuing to count that toward the 100%.

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        6 hours ago

        I can easily see if it’s a women or a man just based on how they move from a distance.

        I guess it depends on how dark it is. If it’s pitch black, nobody can see, but usually you have some shape you can see.