Not related actually. Femmes are more feminine, butches are more masculine, and they both have an aesthetic. Also since this is lesbian terminology everything about everything about this is fiercely debated. Popular arguments include if one can be femme without dating butches (the inverse argument exists but is less common).
Right but bottoms are more feminine, tops more masculine, and both have clearly defined aesthetics too. Is the butch one also typically meant to play a more dominant role in the relationship?
yeah when I meant dominant I meant like “taking the lead”, not in a sexual sense. Like, would the butch always drive? As a bottom, I never drive myself, I let the top do that.
Is femme and butch basically bottoms and tops?
Not related actually. Femmes are more feminine, butches are more masculine, and they both have an aesthetic. Also since this is lesbian terminology everything about everything about this is fiercely debated. Popular arguments include if one can be femme without dating butches (the inverse argument exists but is less common).
Right but bottoms are more feminine, tops more masculine, and both have clearly defined aesthetics too. Is the butch one also typically meant to play a more dominant role in the relationship?
Dominance and sexual position are unrelated to these roles.
yeah when I meant dominant I meant like “taking the lead”, not in a sexual sense. Like, would the butch always drive? As a bottom, I never drive myself, I let the top do that.
Yeah that’s not a thing that happens with us. I’m a femme who fixes stuff in my home. Honestly not even the gay men in my life are like that