This immediately made me think of Gareth trying to flirt by talking about his skill at card games lol
I’m both in this picture and the “older sports jock”(compared to some friends… no sportsball for me, just fit).
I saw myself as a ticking-timebomb/life-ruiner, so … okay, okay, lotsa regrets. I was wrong and missed so many opportunities to be at least slightly less alone.
Remember kids. When playing against folks who aren’t as good at a game as you, that’s the time to either practice dumb silly shit or use the weapons you don’t normally use.
Like, unless yall are labbing, it really sucks the air out of the room to dominate everyone.
I introduced by young nephews to Mario Kart. They were too bad at the game to race so we played battle mode instead. I’ve let them fight each other as I hung back and practiced drifting around the map, only to intervene whenever one of them was getting a little too cocky.
Didn’t work for me. I played with the most awkward weapons I could manage anyways, and if there’s one thing I sucked at, it was putting myself in the blast-radius of my own grenades and such. Just knowing how to strafe and melee was OP 30 years ago.
Exactly what I’m trying to teach my kids.
When playing with people, the goal is for them to want to play with you again, not just to win. Put the worst people on your team and teach them to be better, and go after the better players on the other team, leaving the worse players to your teammates. Or as you said, goof off a bit, or give yourself handicaps (e.g. have to “tag up” to your base between kills, can only use one weapon, etc).
If everyone goes home happy, then it’s a success. Leave the fierce competition for tournaments.
If everyone goes home happy, then it’s a success. Leave the fierce competition for tournaments.
Expecting online gamers to have grave, a bold move Cotton
See, this is why you have to say things, out loud, explicitly, without room for ambiguity, intentions, hopes & aspirations clearly stated, black ink on white paper
Yeah and if anon assumed it was a date and it was just friends hanging out they would call him a creep.
I had a girl who I had been hanging out with regularly gently explain to me that we were never going to have a sexual or romantic relationship.
I was stopped cold by this. I had no idea how to explain to her that in the two years of hanging out daily I never tried to kiss her, hold her hand, or even meet her family. I just was never interested and she thought I was always about to make a move.
I thought we were just friends? So did she but she thought I wanted otherwise. It was weird. We aren’t friends now.
I had a few girls who weren’t cool with me being able to shut-down my romantic interest the moment we had that conversation. Turns out, we weren’t friends, I was just their back-up.
Most insisted later I missed my chance to try being more assertive, but none liked learning their “crush”-perks weren’t ever exclusive or crush-related; The crush just meant I hadn’t let them see me treat others similarly.
Wait, so her saying what you both already wanted somehow made things worse? That doesn’t make sense, surely a “Perfect! I don’t want romance to get in the way of the friendship we have.” would’ve kept things as they were?
Making it clear what the boundaries of the relationship are should make things better, not worse.
After years realizing the other person misread every single second you spent with them changed the nature of our friendship significantly.
Imagine if after two years you realized someone you thought of as one of your closest friends had no idea what you wanted from them. It was weird and we grew apart.
That’s really too bad, and really highlights the importance of being upfront about expectations.
It is so strange, all these assumptions
Still weird to immediately date a guy’s ex girlfriend who you enjoy talking to time to time.
If you respect the friendship, leave a clemency period first, and then later do it.
Bumping into him first and getting a semi kind of affirmation is actually a good way to go about it
I’m not sure that was even alluded to lol
He didn’t realize he could have had a double teabag that night.
