• Flagstaff@programming.dev
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    17 hours ago

    As a middle-schooler back then, I already disliked my own appearance, so I didn’t know where I stood. I haven’t been deceived often; in fact, I can’t remember more than one major instance. I think the bullying was more damaging as it was so brazen as to not mind even other passersby noticing. I’ve still struggled with my appearance ever since.

    Only people with a certain minimum self-confidence know where they “stand.” I think for everyone else, bullying can be worse.

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      17 hours ago

      You don’t always know when you’ve been deceived, and that’s exactly my point. There are probably many more times you were deceived by someone you trusted and continued to be deceived by them., but you wouldn’t know, because you were deceived.

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        16 hours ago

        I might prefer to just not know, then. Again, bullying is typically public so it’s also almost guaranteed to be embarrassing, which is an additional negative effect. Deception could just involve only you and the deceiver over something specific for which they might even have some semblance of a reason or motive.

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          9 hours ago

          I’m sure I’m being deceived all day, every day. But if I’m happy regardless, then I’ll take blissful ignorance.

          To be clear, no one is saying they want to be deceived. But in this thought exercise, you and I agree on why we’re choosing it over being bullied ❤️