• M137@lemmy.world
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    I drunkenly did this once, my two friends who were a couple at the time were arguing and one was absolutely in the wrong. It was NOT a good idea, I regretted it immediately and just left, then called and apologised to both if them.

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      Could be worse, could be child of parents that should really get divorced, but don’t because of the kids

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        Still get to deal with most of the same shit, but the repressed perma-denial TV-marriage version, through the entirety of their developing years, and then never get the chance to see what an authentic healthy relationship looks like? Sign me up!

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      ? So I’ve been separated from my ex for over a year, and we’ve argued exactly 3 times.

      My son is even mad that we don’t fight anymore and we now can move back in together because we’re happy again.

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          I guess I wasn’t taking it personally rather I was surprised this was your experience. More often than not ive heard from friends their lives got much easier without the two of them arguing all the time after they separated.

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            Your experience absolutely isn’t universal. There are millions of us with mental health issues directly related to our parents divorce and their behavior after separating.

            It’s super common for parents to use their children as middlemen in their arguments once they’re separated, as well as trying to turn the child against the other parent.

            I’m glad your divorce was different, though.

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            That means you have a good social circle 😄 I mean eventually it gets easier for everyone but the divorce itself is often brutal for kids if the parents start arguing about money, custody and so on. Kids often see it as their responsibility to mediate between their parents and end up in the crossfire. It’s unfortunately quite common, there are entire books about it.

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        This is the correct way to divorce. You meet the “right” person. Buold a friendship. Get married. Doesn’t work. Divorce.

        Verses getting married too fast or not building a good friendship. Then falling apart and doing a angry divorce. Shame to bring kids into that.

        Talk to your partner people. Many things can be solved or made better with a little work. Then if it doesn’t work you split. Learn to listen and communicate.

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    You never get invited to join a couple’s argument? It’s never fun and you should always decline.

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      Yeah, based on parties I attended in my twenties: I can testify that while reality show couple fights are usually exaggerated, that stuff actually does happen.

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    me against my wife

    me and my wife against her boyfriend

    me, my wife, and my wife’s boyfriend against the stranger who just butted in with “Actually…”

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      In that situation, gotta call up the whole squad.

      Your boy. Your boy’s wife. Your boy’s wife’s boyfriend…

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    Never get involved in a couple’s argument

    The person at fault will scapegoat you

    Having said that you can look to polyamory for the emotional support threesome

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    It happens all the time! Probably more often than actual sexual threesoms and likely more often after one!

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    Most of the time you can’t just join a couple having sex either…

    Like, if you just stumbled across a couple people doing the sideways tango in the woods; they probably aren’t going to just let you strip down and join in.

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      I have seen a lot of video proof, claiming the opposite. In particular, this happens very often to certain jobs such as plumbers, security guards and job interviewers

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      Hey, if you didn’t want my cock inside you, you shouldn’t have pointed your ass at me when I’m hiking.

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    You can. The problem is that you can never tell what the outcome will be.

    You pick the right argument and the right couple : sex

    You pick the wrong one : bullet

    There’s a lot in between those two, and you’re rolling the dice

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    If an argument is in public it’s fair game.

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    One time I loved with my roommate… and his ex wife. It was sort of amicable (obviously), but sometimes the arguments weren’t. I usually stayed out of it if possible, but sometimes not.

    And sometimes when it was lower stakes I would just poke at them for fun.