I have found great relief being able to remotely connect and make sure things are ‘OK’. For example, we were away during a tornado. Another time, my hot water heater leak alarm went off, I was able to log in and verify that it was a false alarm.

Out of respect for my partner, I keep the mics off, unless I specifically turn them on to check.

I have 9 cameras installed around my home - with none of them pointed anywhere inside (except my garage). I simply cannot come up with good reason to have one inside except to monitor a pet. Nothing gets in or out without video. That’s enough.

In my opinion, people who live there should be able to preserve their own privacy in that space.

I have exterior and interior cameras… however we have a nanny that watch our children and we like to be able to look in and see what is going on from time to time. Nanny’s are aware of the cameras and they are in public places of our house. If you don’t have in home sitters he could be suspicious about something or does he have controlling behaviors and wants to know what your doing when he’s away?

If you have to ask us….

A romantic partner demanding to install a nanny cam to watch me would be an immediate dealbreaker, I couldn’t care less what his reasons are. Even the ask screams abusive control. They’d lose whatever trust I had in them both for the absurd question and their reaction to my resounding hell no.

Imagine a life where you have to comb your own home for hidden cameras daily as though you’re staying in a shoddy Airbnb because that’s the life you’ll have with this person. Imagine what happens to those images when you’ve finally had enough of this type of treatment. Are you sure he hasn’t secretly installed one already? I’d nope out of that relationship at the speed of light.

The only I would trust is the eve HomeKit hksv camera and set it to off when anyone is home. Video data is encrypted on device before it sent to the internet and can only be accessed via your devices.

Without providing a compelling reason this would be highly suspect to me.

We had a camera in our home for a while because we got a puppy. It was our way to keep an eye on him early on when we first started leaving him home alone.

We talked about it first, both agreed to do it after I explained why I wanted to and it was local only, no video or audio sent out of the house.

Once the dog got older I took it down and repurposed, now it’s the inside of the garage camera.

I would set them up to cover ingress/egress points, so doors and windows, which will catch a good image of any intruder coming or going. You should be able to adjust most cameras so that they only cover the doorway, or windows, and not your living space.

Me and my fiance ended up getting cameras, and she was intially uncomfortable with them, so we agreed that as long as they were only covering ingress/egrees she was fine with it. Eventually, we ended up getting Cats and have changed our cameras so they cover most of our main living areas. We do not, and will not put cameras in bedrooms/bathrooms.

Also if you do come to an agreement with him regarding cameras, make sure he shares access with you, and has them set up through a VPN…if he is not familiar with networking/network secruity, go through a professional installer that can set up the network secruity for the cameras properly, and it will be ok.

Honestly, this sounds more like a r/relationship_advice post than r/homeautomation.

When we installed our cameras (some internal, most external) my wife and I talked about camera placement and what the cameras were monitoring and what we wanted to monitor. We established that bedrooms and bathrooms were no-camera zones and that we wanted to monitor primarily doors and windows. Finally, I made sure that my wife has access to the NVR so she can review the cameras as well (equal access == equal trust). The important bit is communication and information are key for something like this.

Our primary non-security use for the cameras is checking in on the house when we travel or when I want to see if the trash can needs to be pulled from the street. Do you use at-home babysitting? Perhaps that’s why he wants an interior camera?

As far as acting silly or whatnot, I don’t even really think about the cameras anymore. My wife and I both have walked through the living room in our underwear or less to get something out of the kitchen.

I would highly encourage the two of you to talk through the trust issue that has been found here. Something’s not right and if the camera is installed anyways, it could backfire spectacularly and sow discontent between the two of you.

My guess? He likes to wait. Seriously, he probably just wants to see you undress.

I have a camera in my house and everyone knows it. It records 24/7 and saves several months back. I almost never check the recordings unless I’m trying to figure out which cat is knocking the lamp over. It’s too complicated to pull up footage for just casual viewing. I like being able to check on my home when I’m gone. Plus due to my professional experiences, it’s great evidence when someone breaks into your home. You think your outside cameras are enough to convict? Lmao nope! “Just because they broke in doesn’t mean my client stolen anything from the property”. It’s also great to check when a kid breaks their nose when you were only gone long enough to pee. Like how the f*ck did you break your nose in less than 1 min of me being gone?

Also check state laws. In my state it’s perfectly legal to have a camera in a public space in the house without consent to others. It’s illegal in private areas without consent

Btw you should post this to r/privacy

I have two cameras in my living space. One is in my utility room/mud room that covers by back door/dog door. The other is in my living room. It covers my front door and sliding glass door. If someone takes the time to hack my very secure setup, then they are going to be very bored with what they see. When we are not home, I use the living room one to help keep an eye on my dogs, they tend to get into mischief when we are gone.

Personally, I/we have cameras throughout the common areas of me and my S.O.’s home. We have people come take care of our dogs here and there, people drop off and kindly steal packages, and we are also in an “improving” neighborhood where we get to hear the occasional “firework” (gunshot). But I live in the US and “celebratory fireworks” are sadly very normal in some areas.

If he’s not sharing access to those cameras with you equally (I.e. Ring shared access), that’s very questionable. On the other end, if he’s sharing access with you and you’re questioning it (it doesn’t sound like this is the case), then that’s also questionable. So, get access if you don’t have it already. If he balks at that idea, I’d get very curious. And throw a handful of red flags into the air.

We have cameras covering the driveway, front yard, backyard, garage, family room downstairs and living room upstairs. The two inside cameras are angled to capture as much of the upper and lower living spaces as possible.

• driveway so we can see people coming and going such as food or friends… if we had any.
• front yard to cover anyone that may park in front of our house instead of driveway otherwise we wouldn’t know about them
• backyard to keep an eye on the kid playing and knowing when the neighbor kids jump the fence to grab their balls
• garage so my wife can yell at me when I’m doing something unsafe or a visual confirmation we closed the garage door (got an app for that but physically seeing it is more reassuring)
• living room/family room to keep tabs on the kid when we are elsewhere in the house as well as to get a quick glance when we aren’t home and get worst-case scenario thoughts in our head

Basically, I’d only question his motives if he wants to install a camera in the bedroom or bathroom.

He’s cheating and feels he needs to watch you, his guilty conscience is getting the best of him…