• mayoi
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    1 year ago

    You aren’t obliged to tell anyone anything. If you care about identity politics, that’s a different issue. You’re either attracted to someone or not and there’s no label that can be put on a person in question unless they insist on having one.

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        1 year ago

        Have you tried not hanging around people who don’t understand “I’m not attracted to you”?

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              1 year ago

              Yeah I looked that up online and the only results are:

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              • Chaos from Hades

              • Pokémon with the Swarm ability and genders.

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                “swarmgender” gets me one result on ddg, on google i get three and they’re all this same guy

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                  The concept is kinda out there for me personally, and I’m a bit uncomfortable with calling a person “it,” but its pronouns are right there. I don’t really see a reason to deny its gender expression. Who are we to say “no, that’s not how you view yourself?”

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              I found a post on Lemmy from 3 months ago where someone said “As a swarmgender person, mind-melding is how I have sex. And I don’t want to fuck you, so I’m not going to let you into my head. “

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                I guess that makes sense, is there like a “queen” and “workers” or something? I guess i dont know much about insect social structures, i might be thinking anout bees specifically.

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                As someone for whom social roles do need to make sense (not in a phobic way I just have that sort of autism) I don’t get it