>be me
>highschool gym class
>shirts vs skins
>take off shirt
>gym teacher sees my bruises
>get called into office
>asked if bruises are from home
>no these are from school
>oh ok
>never chosen for skins again
>thanks gym teacher
Nobody cares about bullying, until the victim decides to fight back. Then it’s “zero tolerance” for violence
This was probably 25 years ago at this point but I got sent to the principal’s office along with the kid that attacked me and I didn’t even have a chance to fight back before an adult showed up to stop it. Didn’t matter, got the same “shame on you” even though I literally did nothing.
I was in martial arts in highschool, and the star student got in a fight. Advanced levek blackbelt, teaching lessons himself, winning regional competitions, wanted to do mma and teach it shortly before it really became a known thing, think he actually does that now.
I had recently watched this guy hold his own sparring against the lead instructor of our “dojo” and the lead instructor for the state. They came at him one at a time, but it was one contiuous match.
The star student did not initiate the fight at school. He could have broken the kid who attacked him in half without much effort, but he didn’t even attempt to block. He knew the zero tolerance rules and didn’t want anything to come back on him.
If I recall right, the attacker broke or sprained the star student’s arm. School admin still came down on him. It took intervention by state level people in our martial arts org and numerous others for them to let him back before the attacker.
This sounds like some adolescent power fantasy, but it’s not. Just absolutely fucking absurd.
They loved to do that shit in the 90’s. It got to where if someone threw a punch you went all out because you knew everyone was getting suspended no matter what
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i am not defending how schools handle bullies at all, but saying no one cares is inaccurate. people care but
kids and teens are naturally born liars or just can’t describe events probably and in their mind they are always innocent, most schools are understaffed and most teachers overworked and can’t keep track of what everyone is doing, and most importantly parents. a bully probably has bad parents and bad parents are the ones that are willing to get into shouting matches and lawsuits because you treated their little angle too bad. that’s why it’s always “your son got into a fight” and not “your daughter is bullying her classmates”. that’s why it’s always wishy washy “don’t fight kids” to both sides. the moment a parent feels like their kid is taking the blame they are going to pound on you until either they are forced out of school or you give in.
it’s sad honestly but mix that with 10 or 20 years of constantly dealing with kids and parents bullshit, and you get seemingly apathetic teachers.
kids and teens are naturally born liars
Absolutely not true. It’s the adults listening and reacting only to what they want that incentivizes young people to lie
Bullies don’t lie about beating your ass?! Excuse me say what?
If only you could read my comment… I only talked about the origins of lying, I said nothing about observed behaviour of young people
When i was in high school i got beat to shit by other kids regularly. These were some nasty fucks. too. Buncha farm boys who took what they learned from their old man at home and brought it to school to take it out on those smaller than them.
The school knew i was being hurt regularly and did nothing. My reports of violence directed against me got no response at best and the school administration saying i deserved it for being weak at worst and i quickly quit even bothering. Other parents saw/overhead how i was treated and complained to the school but that was also ignored.
But when Columbine happened suddenly that changed. They knew the whole time and they realized something bad could happen because of their inaction and encouragement: I could get revenge.
Now, things didn’t change for the better but it became clear to me that they knew exactly what had been going on. They just didn’t care because, in their minds, i deserved what happened. Their response to the new fear of school shootings wasn’t to try to fix things and improve the situation, it was to view me not just as someone who deserved what happened to me but as an enemy.
They know and they don’t care.
That is such a horrible view of children. What happened to you to form such an opinion?
my experience with kids comes from the 10 or 12 years as a kid that i remember, one of my parents being a teacher and hearing about what happened in their school, and 1 year of helping teaching middle schoolers about computers on windows 7 boxes half of which had parts taken from by the kids (don’t ask me how i got to that point). should preface this by saying that all of these were in poor urban schools without councilors or other similar kinds of staff in a third world country.
i got nothing against kids. they are indeed very sweet and innocent and i don’t hate them. i got bullied when i was a kid because i couldn’t socialize with anyone, all of it seemed very arbitrary and strange. it was the same routine in and out, someone sees me crying and they ask what happened, i tell them the kids name and we both get called to the office, and i would see the moment the kid gets accused of anything the tears start running down their face and they start lying through their teeth. at the end the teacher would decide either it was a close call or can’t do nothing about the kid and let us go.
i’ve seen both how assholish kids can get (worst was definitely the time the drug dealer kid decided to have a go, in which he subsequently broke my nose and almost broke my leg), and how teachers fail to do anything about it. i’ve seen my fair share of abusive and sadistic teachers which would hit us if we didn’t do our homework even though it was illegal for at least a few years by this point, but looking back i clearly see that some people at least cared and tried to help me, but couldn’t do anything about it especially in that environment. and things have improved since then. spending time with teachers in break rooms, it’s obvious how much most of them care these days. they’re almost always discussing the kids relationships, how well they are doing, if any of them is getting bullied ect. some of the assholes are still there, no doubt about it.
so to answer your question, probably the bias that has formed in me being a victim of bullying, or poverty, or a mix of them both. in my folly i assumed 1. teachers at richer countries are better and 2. yet at the same time kids are exactly how they are here. the amount of downvotes my comment got tells me otherwise. i just wanted to defend teachers that always getting thrown under the bus for bullying when in fact it’s much more of a complex and systematic issue.
shirts vs skins? is the school too poor to get some coloured vests? were the girls supposed to take off their shirt too? how is this acceptable?
High school gym classes are usually separated by gender. That said, I think this is fake - pinnies/vests are not very expensive and can be reused for years.
even if separated, even for boys this feels icky. and if there’s no coloured vest then how are the girls forming teams?
You’d have to ask the 4chan OP about the lore of his made-up universe, I have no idea.
Uh, naw shirts vs skins absolutely was a thing in the 2000s. I hated it. Pretty SURE* girls did boring shit instead of team sports though.
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I remember the girls always walking the track while the boys had to participate in whatever the planned unit was.
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When I was in high school only girls got pinnies on a regular basis. It was icky. Gym class was also segregated.
so the pinnies were there but they were only used for the girls?
Sort of, there were only enough for one class. Boys & girls ran separately, but at the same time. We only got them if the girls weren’t using them.
lol because buying extra would be so damn expensive
There seemed to be some political objection to it. It was a a strange time. Definitely a problem I had that I’m glad my son doesn’t have to deal with.
That’s US/EU standard. In many countries schools it’s normal to not have luxuries like colored vest
You segregate by gender as well?
Definitely real, I did it in the 90s and hated it. You don’t take your shirt off, you keep your arms in, but you raise the front behind your neck so it all bunches up at the top. I was chubby then and that was definitely a core memory of self-consciousness.
We had em and still did skins vs shirts when it was hot outside
My school had yellow and red fabric ribbons that we worse around the shoulders. Super cheap and effective
This was very much a thing all over the US when I was young.
It’s fake or 20+ years old
Doesn’t have to be. This is how it worked when I was in middle school. That was 3 years ago.
This whole thread is hilarious. I’ve never seen any sort of distinguishing mark used, throughout the years. Whether on the play grounds or during phys.ed classes, or when I was in sports clubs.
How on earth did we manage? Apparently we had enough brain cells to remember teammates.
Like, seriously, the whole discussion is so alien to me.
maybe you had a small class, that or a big brain
I’m talking about all the schools I’ve ever been to. There is no such thing as skins vs shirts, in France. Classes are around 30 people usually. Never even heard of it until I went on the Net and was exposed to the US culture.
So you just remember which 15 people are in your group? Are the groups the same every time?
From primary school, we would have people pick teams one at a time. So yeah, you would remember who was in your team. I think the most numerous game would be football, but that would rarely be eleven a side. I ain’t saying I’d remember everyone’s name, but yeah, you generally remember the people on your side.
It helps that people are generally running in the same direction, or trying to attack you, you know? Faking being on the same team so you’d get passed the ball… never happened, in my experience.
By mistake, sometimes, but you’d have so many of your team mates shout at you for the mistake that you’d not do it again, haha!Like I said, I’m really baffled this isn’t the norm. Maybe it’s a Gen X thing?
But that makes no sense. Younger generations are supposed to be more sociable, with much larger pools of “friends”. So surely it should be even easier for ye.Sounds like you just played a more limited array of sports. Football is honestly not easy without uniforms, but possible especially if 7v7 or something.
But playing ultimate Frisbee, capture the flag, etc without uniforms is essentially impossible. Remembering who is on your team isn’t even the hard part. It’s more because you need to make quick decisions and recognize who is open immediately.
So yeah… that’s how uniforms work. I would be baffled if they weren’t the norm.
Did y’all use uniforms in World War II? No wonder the Germans were able to slice through your defensive lines so easily, you couldn’t tell who was on which team.
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