• @xmunk
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    2711 days ago

    My strategy (especially since I got married) is to just have a single plate and a single bowl. These get washed/rinsed whenever I want to put food in them (I do discard visible waste after a meal). It’s helped me both in terms of not having a pile of dishes that scares me and in terms of not getting stuck in analysis paralysis if all the dishes are dirty and I’m hungry. I actually have a visually distinct plate I use and try my best to never use a different plate to eat. I’d recommend giving it a try.

    • @[email protected]
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      511 days ago

      I’ve been trying to get my SO to agree to getting rid of all the plates and cups except for what we use hasn’t worked yet I should just go solo and take your recommendation it’s a good recommendation

      • @xmunk
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        511 days ago

        I’m in the same situation - we have a lot of dishes in our house and my partner can manage with multiple dishes… so I have my chosen dishes and then we have a pool of dishes for them to use - they’ve actually struggled with this same issue (they’re not diagnosed but might be ADHD) so while they use a rotation of plates and bowls they have adopted “the chosen coffee mug” to keep from getting overwhelmed by piles of mugs on random surfaces in their office.

      • @[email protected]
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        411 days ago

        My wife and I moved recently. We don’t have a dishwasher at the moment so we chose to have 4 sets of dishes unpacked total so we can make sure to keep up on dishes. 2 meals each uses all the dishes, so we’re forced to clean them daily.

    • @[email protected]
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      18 days ago

      This works, but due to ADHD at some point I forget that that bowl is, say, on top of a wardrobe near the place where I sit with a laptop, and instead of remembering where it is take another one. And so on.

  • @[email protected]
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    1511 days ago

    What do you mean? It looks pretty great having a bowl with a handle. Might even be an upgrade to usual

    • @xmunk
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      511 days ago

      Plus Oxo… that’s fancy. They’re eating like royalty!

  • @[email protected]
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    1111 days ago

    This, in my mind, is a scientific endeavor; you can monitor your cereal/milk intake in milliliters per minute, and I think that’s important to know.

  • @[email protected]
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    911 days ago

    Ok, so, what has been working for me is keep the dishwasher open and racks out. Then, as I use a dish, rinse it and put it in the dishwasher. When it gets full, turn it on. The only thing I haven’t solved is putting the dishes up when it’s done.

  • The Bard in Green
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    711 days ago

    Uh… that’s been me. With Special K, Red Berries no less. I’m not too proud to admit it.

    • Fuck spezOP
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      111 days ago

      Yup. I filled it back up with a bunch more freeze dried strawberries and bananas when this was empty and had another “bowl”. Wouldn’t want to waste a clean dish.

  • @[email protected]
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    610 days ago

    It’s not gonna cure you or anything but something I did was only kept out two of every plate, bowl and utensil. I put the rest away in a place that would take more time to take out than to clean. As I got more into the habit of cleaning the dishes by necessity I would add one more set. Now I have the full set and though I still struggle I am much better at getting my dishes cleaned.

    • Fuck spezOP
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      110 days ago

      Thanks, that’s similar to another suggestion someone shared and I think I may actually try it. It sounds like just the right kind of brain hack for me considering that throwing away all my old, mismatched socks and replacing them with a dozen identical pairs improved my laundry experience by about 300%.

  • nifty
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    610 days ago

    I once bought new pants instead of having to do laundry

    • Fuck spezOP
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      510 days ago

      Completely justifiable if you ask me.

    • @[email protected]
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      18 days ago

      Many times, same with socks. I mean, if you keep them wet for too long, or, eh, wear dirty ones, the fabric wears out much faster.

  • @[email protected]
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    611 days ago

    Our dishwasher leaks and we dont have the money to fix or replace it. So its all manual washing dishes… when the last bowl, plate and utensil is gone.

    • @thatKamGuy
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      611 days ago

      I’m quite a procrastinator myself, I’ve found gamification helps get chores done (e.g. do the dishes after dinner, get an hour of gaming time guilt-free).

      Throw on a podcast or long-form YT video/stream VOD and shit gets done pretty painless.

      • @[email protected]
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        311 days ago

        This is the way. I’ve learned more Elden Ring lore during my dishes and laundry chores than I have playing the game. It takes me longer, because I get distracted by the video, but it doesn’t bother me because I’m engaged with something.

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    11 days ago

    Is r/twoxchromosome the antithesis of this sub. I feel like all the spouses behavior they complain about is the standard post here

    • Fuck spezOP
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      611 days ago

      I couldn’t tell you. The adhdwomen community is where my people are.

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      jeez can we stop with this gender shit altogether? There’s nothing as exhausting as the gender wars. One needs solid resistance to bullshit which I do not posses. Next time if you wanted to say women this, men this just say humans do that shit

    • @Grass
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      211 days ago

      Hell yeah. I’ll have my own kitchen and dishwasher again in a couple months for the first time in a couple years.

  • @[email protected]
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    411 days ago

    here’s a life hack: most dishes can just be rinsed off directly after using them, especially if the only thing it’s been in contact with is something watery and water soluble.

    There is absolutely no need to wash a bowl you’ve had cereal in, just rinse it with hot water for a few seconds and you’re done.

    • @[email protected]
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      1310 days ago

      But if I were capable I’d immediately rinsing my dishes I wouldn’t have a problem washing them.

        • @[email protected]
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          310 days ago

          I don’t think it’s the soap and scrubbing that’s keeping these dishes from being washed immediately, it’s the stopping what you’re doing, stand up and bring the soak to the sink immediately that’s stopping people. That said I WISH my husband would just Rinse things immediately. He is using the pan literally two feet away from the sink! Just turn and rinse it out while it’s still hot!