• Obi@sopuli.xyz
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    This is called skin to skin and when my kid was born the staff was telling me to do it, supposedly had a bunch of benefits for the baby and it gives them some time to take care of mom. What I can tell you is it felt amazing.

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      As a dad to four kids, skin to skin is absolutely essential to a life long bond and making your children feel comfortable and loved. Fuck this sexist bullshit.

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        Yep, dad to three kids. I can’t imagine not having newborn snuggles. In many ways it is 100% beneficial for the baby. When babies snuggle close to a chest, it is often a signal to eat. Sometimes they can get frustrated when mom does it 1) when they don’t want to eat but are being smooshed into a boob that smells like breast milk or 2) when they want to eat but mom doesn’t want to or can’t feed at that moment. Snuggling with dad or a second caregiver is a great alternative.

        The most peaceful sleep my kids tend to have is after being fed then baked nicely under a blanket on my warm chest.

        Dad’s deserve bonding time too

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        Started a new job, but 4 days before my wife got flown to our area’s leading hospital due to complications with the pregnancy. So day 4 rolls around and I’m literally ~5000ft underground, no cell signal, get back to surface and check phone ASAP. 4th child,1st daughter, born 3 months premature hours earlier. First chance I got I drove the 8 hours to see them and within minutes of arriving it was skin on skin with this smolly. She was heckin early but healthy. Every opportunity I got, I’d drive down for snugs. It was around her OG expected due date before we could bring her home. Almost 2 years later and we’re besties.

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      supposedly had a bunch of benefits for the baby

      Yep!

      Helps them regulate their breathing rhythm and their body temperature. Likely transfers beneficial skin bacteria.

      And it makes them feel safe.

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        More importantly, it helps them go to sleep easier, deeper, and longer.

        Strip the kid down to their diaper, lose your shirt, lay back on the couch watching a movie or reading a book with a light blanket over both of you.

        That pretty much describes my evening after dinner when my boys were under 6 months old. If you do it right after they eat it’s pretty much a guaranteed 3-4 hours of peace even with a newborn.

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      Agreed, I did the same, it’s highly encouraged now. Frankly the thought that others might find it strange didn’t even cross my mind, but wouldn’t have discouraged me in the slightest.

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      I did it too, my little guy pooped all over my chest lol. Totally worth it.

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    She is so right. Progressive gender roles are a cancer. She should get back into the kitchen, unable to own property, no right to vote and shut her mouth if she doesnt want to feel the back of my hand. /S

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        I like my women all dolled up, if she doesnt do the housework in high heels and have a martini waiting for me when I return home from a hard day of sexually harassing my secretary…

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    This provides warmth to the baby from their fathers, which in the case of this cold hearted frigid iceberg of a woman, they will definitely need it.

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    With a reaction like that I didn’t imagine Karen there is much of a nurturer herself.

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      That seems to be more of a learned trait, and it’s sad she didn’t have any good role models growing up.

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    Those disgusting men! How dare they provide warmth and love to their children!

    Next time I want a photo of the baby on a block of ice while the father is in a suit and ignoring him.

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    If this isn’t just b8, Is this person telling us their father never hugged them and in the same breath holding court on what affection is? Guess their father never taught em self-reflection neither

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      “Skin to skin” is a thing and I’m so glad it is. We had a 5 week early premie and the nurses said that the skin to skin contact with either parent helps so much. They, the midwife, and everyone else that helped us for that matter really promoted it.

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    Wow, social media has given a platform and a means for out reach to people without any sense or decency. People like this lady are weapons grade morons who inflict so much psychic damage. In some ways, the cure for this is to ridicule her type of behavior. So here we are

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    To be fair, if current-day McGregor was holding a child that small (or anything else fragile and cherished) I would be pretty nervous.

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      I fucking hate that cunt, but ahe somehow manages to outcunt him, which is quite the achievement

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    My high school biology teacher told us about how when his wife was pregnant he started taking hormones to lactate so he could breast feed his newborn child.