Can’t spell abandon without ABA

Instead of getting to actually know your child, you assume some vague meaningless word caused their problems, toss them in some “school” that is supposed to “help” with those problems, while ignoring and disregarding the child’s needs.

Hey, guess what? Isolating your child and treating them like a joke at best and a burden you and the entire world is better off without at worst, is quite literally a traumatic experience for your child. Literally not hugging your child causes touch starvation which could develop into goddamn PTSD.

But like everything else you and literal professional child abusers have done to your child, you’ll call the affects of their anguish “autism” and just not do anything about it! Every other child could be suicidal because of bullies and abusive family, but your child is only suicidal because autism. Children pee and poop themselves when physically or sexually abused, but your child only suffers because autism. Instead of getting to the bottom of what’s causing your child’s suffering, you call it autism and ignore it or try to cover it up.

These “schools” destroy the child and literally gaslights them into believing every part of being a human being is a spoiled hissy fit tantrum. That wiping your ass is a tantrum because you just don’t like having wet privates after using the toilet. That showering and having clean underwear is a tantrum because you just don’t like not being clean. The child would regress entirely on healthy habits while being uncomfortable and itchy, and not say or do anything because they believe that’s being a “good kid”. And you believe your child is gross because autism and not because they literally got abused into believing their comfort and health don’t matter.

You have no idea what your child is going through in “school” and you don’t care since it’s not one of your actually loved children. You must only act like you care for an excuse to yell at someone since you literally abuse, bully, and neglect your child in the same ways, if not worse, at home.

So many children could have grown into actually functional adults but their futures are brutally taken from them by a meaningless word that literally has no definition. They’re raised to be dependent corpses in those “schools”, the parents think the child becoming a corpse is solely a result of autism, and the children are locked away in group homes where they live lives so mediocre and sad that the best thing they will ever had experienced was eating a candy bar when they were 6 years old.

That stupid word ruins lives before they’re given a chance to start. Get to know your fucking child. Raise your fucking child. Your TV and Netflix will be there later, your child’s childhood won’t.

Edit: formatting/grammar, also looks like I’m being downvoted by people who lived real childhoods and rode public transit or walked to real school and grew up real humans who were raised to be real functioning adult human people in real human society who took a trendy TikTok test and call themselves autistic for internet clout that literally won’t matter in a year; then spread how autism is not that bad, how they don’t suffer as often, and how they wish they were diagnosed as a child so they could have been “helped” while having zero idea what “help” is like for children that aren’t seen as humans or even rats (literally if an animal went through what I went through, my abusers would be jailed for animal cruelty); all while spreading harmful misinformation like autism being The Reason Why they like drawing anthropomorphic animal characters, playing popular video games, enjoying things aimed at younger audiences, or knowing a lot about a random subject; all for literally imaginary internet points that don’t matter to anyone else and won’t matter to them in a year. You got internet points at the cost of pushing disability rights back to when the nazis were euthanizing babies. Was it worth it?

  • AbsolutelyNotAVelociraptor
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    So, to sum it up, autism doesn’t exist (or is just an excuse) because you got unlucky with the family lottery.

    As a person with (luckily) a mild form of autism (who got diagnosed as an adult), let me tell you that you don’t have the slightest idea of what it is to be autistic or to have a child that is autistic (especially if they are more severely affected.

    And I’ll leave it at that because your post and replies are so full of hatred and bigotry that I don’t want to go through them again. If you want people to engage with you and give you proper replies instead of downvotes, try to not project and be respectful.

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      Bro I’m the lucky one for making it out of ABA Prison. So so so many people like me whether they’re actually autistic or not live horrendous lives. And for those that are and require help, they live in literal prison. Like I said earlier if they did that stuff to a dog it would be animal cruelty.

      I want the disabled to have a fair chance at life; and if they can’t live on their own, a happy comfortable life. And I think having an actually definitive label for their disorders and receiving actual treatment that actually HELPS THEM THRIVE is better than quite literally turning them into a literal walking corpse.

      I’m not bigoted. I’ve seen Some Shit and have lived through it. I’ve watched human children become Walking Dead at best and Godzilla at worst. Children who had personalities, hobbies, passions, and the ability to smile. That needs to end. And I think the root cause of having a disorder label so vague it means nothing.

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    We have mental illness bro. Shits hard for everyone around us as well. I grew up in the 80s when there was no spectrum and the solution to bad behavior was abuse. We are hard to handle for some people. Even our parents. I’m not saying everyone was justified in every way they treated you but we are not normal and can act out in crazy ways. I think you need to be more aware of who YOU are and how your behavior effects those around you. I say this because your rant is mostly finger pointing with no mention of your own behavior.

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      So get to what causes it and eliminate it or actually help your child cope with it.

      Before I was put in an ABA school, I was rowdy and loud on weekends where my outside time was being in a Costco for 6 hours, target for 4 hours, Walmart got 4 hours, and in a car for 2 hours combined so that family’s mother can shop for herself while skimping out on the family. Understimulated, hungry, and sleep deprived. I was still a human being so asking for soap and underwear was taken seriously and I’d get them. I wouldn’t be rowdy after running around at a playground or exercising 🤔. The Nintendo Wii was a godsend. Wasn’t rowdy for a long time. Oh, right, and I loved myself and was a decently happy kid despite hating birth name and being alienated from the actual family. If I wasn’t going outside, I’d play video games and be loud as hell with them but when I was told to keep it down I’d be quieter while still having fun with video games. I’d dance to heavy metal and rock. I liked to move a lot as a child but that was extremely limited. Amazon coming in again with a job that allows me to move. Thanks Amazon!

      When I was put in an ABA school I became violent towards myself and suicidal. I’d make myself bleed because I just hated myself so much. I wished I was a normal white man instead of an alien. I’d draw comics of a police officer shooting me and the world having a party because It’s Gone!!! or comics where one person shoots another and lives a happy life now that the other person is gone. I wanted to die. I never wanted to hurt anyone else except for bullies I was forced to be friends with. And I only wanted to make them uninterested in me so i wouldn’t be forced to be their friend. But my boundaries didn’t matter. Also wiping my ass was spoiled, that had to be shared with all the staff in the school that I had the nerve to mention I used the last of the toilet paper in the bathroom. How dare I use toilet paper? Spoiled! So I didn’t wipe anymore. And when I ran out of soap, family only assumed autism made me want to shower so I couldn’t get any more soap. I had to handwash my underwear until they had holes in them. But family assumed I’m stretching my limited resources because autism and not because they screamed at me for asking for anything in the store. I hated myself more and was hospitalized for being suicidal, in which that family’s mother had to leave work early because it had to go to the hospital. I was grounded for months for being suicidal and she assumed autism made me suicidal so she kept me in that institution where I deteriorated and became a zombie. I lost interest in everything. I had nothing to live for.

      The only reason I got out is because the same autism that made me so r word that I needed to be shunned from society made me so smart that I had the potential to make that family’s mother rich.

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      And I didn’t become a free money glitch because I was “too smart” but okay. One of the millions of reasons my family hated me.

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        Not sure what you mean… are you saying that you were not diagnosed as autistic, and your family hated you because of it?

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          I was MISdiagnosed and part of why they hated me was because I couldn’t get them free money. I was too smart to qualify. I wonder why… It’s almost as if I never had that stupid shit. Probably why that bitch of a mother put me in an ABA school knowing full well what that shit was. The potential money was why I got out otherwise I would have killed myself ages ago