• CaptDust
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    misogyny is a skill issue

    Always has been, weak men can’t stand women outpacing them, this is not limited to gaming but basically anything and everything.

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          Been there, done that, it sucked.

          It was great at first! But after 6-months I was depressed. Guess I’m the sort that requires the structure a regular job provides. Kinda been the same for WFH. :(

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            I had depression before WFH, still have it but at least now I can work with my cat on my lap

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            I like WFH but I hated being a house-husband. WFH gives me something to do more than cleaning and cooking and childcare.

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              Play some games, contribute to opensource, read academic papers. There are a lot of work to do even if you are not employed.

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                Believe it or not, cooking, cleaning and childcare full time doesn’t really leave you with much energy to play games, let alone contribute to open source or read academic papers.

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                That requires a certain amount of intelligence and interest in those things. No disrespect to those people but it you are below average IQ and make a living in a simple job, you cant just contribute to open source software and read academic papers for a hobby.

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                  I replied to comment that says being house-husband sucks because there are not enough things to do.

                  Also there are minimal intelligence requirements for reporting bugs or donating.

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        It shows how stupid and against your own best interests this kind of thinking can be.

        I am the full time worker in my family, and happy to be the provider for them. However, I would be a stay at home dad / house-husband so damn fast if my wife got some random job mom making a lot more than me. I do have my priorities in order, after all.

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        My genuine theory is that many (if not most) people are emotionally stunted or emotionally immature. You don’t get this kind of mentality from someone who is balanced.

        Now expand that to every facet of life and you get the world we live in.

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        Hahahha most of our relationship i made more than his lordship. Now he makes more than me and he hates it. He wants to be a kept man, dammit

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        Maybe because it is not in realm of possible instead of something they don’t want?

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          There are wealthy women out there, so it is entirely in the range of possibility. My mom’s first husband left her when she started making more money as a lawyer than him. It’s an ego thing.

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      The issue with this is it’s too simplistic.

      What it’s actually saying is “it’s easy to not be misogynistic as long as you’re significantly better than all the women”.

      It does not imply that you won’t be misogynistic as soon as you are threatened.

      Ie when status quo is maintained (patriarchy is intact for you) it’s easy to support women.

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      It would be interesting to see if it’s really because of how they are as individuals or more about the response to social status thing. Like if they did an experiment where high performers were deceived into thinking they were actually performing poorly, and vice-versa, would the attitudes towards women be reversed or not? The conclusions in OP seem to imply the researchers think they would be.

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        My hypothesis is men with low self esteem would be more misogynistic vs men with high self esteem.

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          My hypothesis is that if you’re a piece of shit, that will extend to all walks of life(misogny, sucking at video games) whereas if you are not, the same rules apply(equality, excelling at video games)

          By being a piece of human garbage you effectively hamstring yourself in every field.

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      The reverse is not true unfortunately. Skilled men are often mysoginistic assholes too.