• @[email protected]
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      488 months ago

      Fun excruciating fact: the worse your social anxiety, the more desperate you might be to get rid of them and at the same time the less likely you are to go with the second option 😮‍💨

    • @[email protected]
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      That’s cool. I can’t think of menu low context cultures in any national scales, but definitely a few subcultures in the US.

      Korea on the other hand is the epitome of high context culture.

    • Sombyr
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      Come to think of it, I don’t think I’ve ever seen anyone actually ask somebody to leave where I’m from. If it gets too late and our guests are still there, guess they’re staying the night. Luckily, most people leave before then.
      I’ve lived most of my life in tiny Vermont villages, for context.

  • The Snark Urge
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    788 months ago

    It someone slaps their knees in my own house I start thinking of leaving

  • @[email protected]
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    548 months ago

    I saw a video yesterday that in Japan, your hosts will offer to serve green tea on rice. Apparently this is a hint for the guests to leave.

    • @[email protected]
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      328 months ago

      In Denmark, the host will sometimes serve soup or another light dish to signal that it’s time for them to leave. It’s actually informally known as “go away-food”

      I wish I had the confidence and rudimentary cooking abilities to serve guests go away-food 😆

        • @[email protected]
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          98 months ago

          Leading to a training montage. Years later, your roommate tries your three thousandth attempt at fuck-off soup, smiles at you, stands up and says “whelp…”

      • @[email protected]
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        148 months ago

        It isn’t that difficult.

        Go away food doesn’t need to taste good. In fact, it helps them go away much faster.

        • @[email protected]
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          118 months ago

          It very much is. Maybe it’s not a custom in your part of the country but here in Østjylland and in Himmerland, it definitely is.

          • Norgur
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            So ist the logic behind this to say “looks we were planning on having dinner about now” implying that the guest is intruding but in order to show hospitality, you’d have to invite them to the meal, so you server some plain-ass soup that won’t cost you squat if the guest should accept your offer but is bland enough so that the guest will likely pass anyway?

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              78 months ago

              I think it’s more like “we’ll give you a bit of food for the journey. Nothing too heavy so you’ll want to sit down for a long time, but decent food nonetheless. Now kindly scram”

    • @gusVLZ
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      128 months ago

      I’m Brazilian and over here we can both, place a broom behind the front door or start doing the dishes

      • LemmyInRedditSux
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        118 months ago

        How does the act of placing a broom behind the front door signify the guest should leave? The broom is blocking the exit. 🤔

        • @gusVLZ
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          The door is open and the broom is visible between the wall and the door

    • @[email protected]
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      58 months ago

      Carrie Fisher would have her copy of the Star Wars Holiday Special if she wanted everyone to leave.

    • @Classy
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      I used to be more Midwestern, “Welp” or “Alright” kind of thing, but I’ve been becoming a bit more low context with time. Especially if I have my family with me. It’s a lot easier to terminate exchanges when you have a kid.

      “I’m gonna go now” seems like it’s going to be too direct but people adjust pretty quickly in my experience. Or maybe everyone I know thinks I’m an asshole lol

      • @[email protected]
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        48 months ago

        I just speak plainly. It works wonders.

        There are some people who don’t like it, but that’s just because they’re even bigger assholes.

  • @[email protected]
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    228 months ago

    Why wouldn’t people just say, “It’s getting late, this was fun, but I need to sleep so it’s time for everyone else to leave, let’s hang out again next week”?

    Why can’t people be simple?

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      168 months ago

      Yeah, I normally say “I can’t clog the bathroom with people listening” and that normally works

    • Punkie
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      118 months ago

      I have had hosts be this direct, and we all went, “okay,” and left. And came back when invited with no hard feelings. Usually D&D games, but also movie nights.

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      I just bounce

      Even during my own parties or while I have people over. Stay as long as you like, even stay the night if you so desire, but I’m going to my room and passing out at 10pm no matter what, so you do you from that point on. It’s likely I’ll also forget to tell you I’m going to bed

  • @[email protected]
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    128 months ago

    As a guest I am never this type of problem, as I will usually have done an “Irish goodbye” hours before this point. If I haven’t, my only problem would be not exclaiming out loud “oh thank god” when the host whelps.