Hi, I have a transmasc boyfriend and am part of the LGBTQ+ alliance. However I started my first year of college and encountered uneducated men who just did not believe that trans people had their rights under attack. One of my friends even told my trans woman friend that she had more rights than him. How or what can you do to help others become educated without “debating trans existence” or starting an argument? Thank you.

  • SouthernCanadian
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    1 year ago

    To say something controversial: maybe listen to what they have to say and try to understand why they think what they think, instead of assuming that you’re automatically right and just need to educate them.

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      1 year ago

      I think its pretty weird if you say trans people are treated equally, let alone more rights. It’s still a societal problem we have in a lot of places and in my experience all I meet that are trans have some sucky times because of other people…

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        1 year ago

        To be fair there is an entire month dedicated to LGBT pride.

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          1 year ago

          There wouldn’t need to be a month dedicated to pride if lgbt people weren’t discriminated against.

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            1 year ago

            I’m just starting what the average person sees.

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              So it makes it equal because they get a “month”. I get it. You probably don’t know a lot of these people and i didnt use to either. But when speaking about their life experience, they have been shunned from most friend groups and yeah they all chill with like minded people cause you know there aren’t any bigots there.

              I get that if you were like me and you really arent a bigot, that it is hard to see the (daily) struggles and think well I dont see any discrimination. But like most people can amend to is that most have more struggles because they are of the lgbtq+ group.

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                1 year ago

                Exactly. Most of us can’t really know about it because we don’t see it everyday.

                All of my LGBTQ friends have a story or another of a scary situation, and I live in a very LGBTQ friendly place.

                Saying there’s no discrimination against them is either misinformed, or burying your head in the sand.

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                1 year ago

                The post was asking about normies and I was relating what should be expected and the thought process there in.

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      1 year ago

      Thats the issue though. They dont think, Ive tried asking them about stuff and they’ll parrot things like “puberty blockers kill people.” then I show them that study was wrong and they just dont believe me lol.

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        1 year ago

        I think it’s worth asking, on a case by case basis, if a conversation with that person is going to be productive. Are they open at all to changing their mind about any aspect of the topic (and are you)? If not, then all you can do with that person is be an example of a good, reasonably sane person who disagrees with them. Just my 2¢.

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          1 year ago

          You are right though. Always be open for change in discussions. How else will we ever be truthful to ourselves and others. But this doesnt feel like a discussion.

          Being a dick to someone will never be okay, except when they are being a dick. Conservative, progressive or whatever, idc. But its just a dick’s opinion to hate trans.

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        1 year ago

        So your only example is a strawman nobody believes?