• gandalf_der_12te@discuss.tchncs.de
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      highly interesting. I assume it is the abstract thinking process, combined with dissociation from yourself?

      Then maybe, any puzzle computer game might provide similar effects.

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      This is my go to type of therapy. It’s about re-centering your focus so that your mind stops looping back to the trauma./ Where it becomes problematic is then weaning yourself off the game to healthier pursuits.

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        definitely shouldn’t be an only solution, socializing and talking it over are also very helpful. i think the game just has a very specific level of escapism that neutralizes thought loops which improves the efficacy of other coping mechanisms.

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          Definitely. But it does depend on the severity of the trauma. A very strong trauma will be constantly trying to retake control of your bandwidthh.

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      if you combine Tetris with an audiobook and sour candy you can dissociate real fucking hard. also works with Pac-Man and Space Invaders

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    Serious answer: I remind myself it’s normal to be shocked by some stuff people do/create. I check the content against my ethics, and try to decide if I’m being uptight or if it really is messed up. If it’s something that isn’t unethical/harmful but I just don’t like, then I remind myself that not everyone needs to share my tastes.

    If it’s genuinely terrible I allow myself to feel the anger/sorrow for a bit, try not to let it become excessive, and congratulate myself on having limits that fit my ethics. I remind myself that good people exist and they are the ones I want to support, emulate, and engage with. As others have mentioned, distraction can also help. Video games, music, socializing - whatever will move your train of thought along.

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      What a great way to word it!

      Thank you for taking the time to explain your way of handling tha reality of being exposed to the internet!

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    I became desensitized thanks to copious gore at 13 😂

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      Goatse, 1man1jar, 2girls1cup, Mr. Hands, BME Pain Olympics, and unhealthy amounts of 4chan means the horrors of today slide off me like water off a ducks back.

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        Add tubgirl, 3 guys 1 hammer, kids in a sandbox, Mr hands, blue waffle and a whole lotta other stuff that shouldn’t have been as unfiltered and uncategorized as it was at the time.

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      Same. Although I had a couple of re-sensitizing events when each of my children were born. But sometimes the allure gets to me…

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      So many chechen beheading videos. They pair well with the HD drone grenade kills coming out of Ukraine

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    1. back button
    2. use the mantra “I clicked on this, I chose this, I clicked on this, I chose this” a bit.
    3. you receive +1 to personal responsibility
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    I got exposed to CSAM on Twitter over a decade ago. I’m still haunted by it, and anyone who does that deserves the worst things.

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    This is a good question, though. Seeing horrible things on the internet can affect you. Anywhere from getting wigged out to full out trauma is possible.

    Personally, if I come across something like that, it’s a good cue to take a quick break from screens. Go for a walk. Eat if you’re hungry. Drink if you’re thirsty. Spend quality time with your pets or plants if you have any. Pay attention to how you’re feeling and do what might be necessary to make you feel good and healthy. In that state, it’s easier to bring yourself back to the here and now. Look around you and appreciate your life. Seeing how real and raw those things are can give a person perspective, but if you overexpose yourself or ruminate on them, it can fuck you up a little bit. Even if you’re “desensitized.”

    If you’re lucky enough where things like that aren’t a regular part of your life (as it is for most of us here), use it as a lesson in not just taking care of yourself, but also of others and society as a whole. There are fucked up people in the world, yes. Sometimes the bad guys win and terrible or disturbing things happen, yes. It’s best to maintain pride in knowing you’re not trying to contribute to that problem, in whatever little way you can.

    And if you can’t seem to shake it, get some therapy. Not just for that one thing, but, it may be likely you’re slipping into rumination or worldviews that make it difficult to handle depression. Therapy is great, for real. Shop around and find a therapist you like.

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    Playing guitar, or doing something else where I can’t be thinking about it in the background such as Tetris as the other person mentioned, or reading a book