It’s a simple plan…

  • @[email protected]
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    12314 days ago

    As a grown ass man, if that was the peak of my problems I think I’d be feeling pretty great right now.

    • Kairos
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      4314 days ago

      Its probably not the peak of their problems.

        • skulblaka
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          613 days ago

          The peak of their problems is the impending fall of international society into fascism and ecological collapse

          But they’re not old enough to be expected to worry about that yet.

    • @[email protected]
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      1113 days ago

      I feel this way; we get ‘growing pains’ so we can grow.

      Scrapped knees from learning to ride a bike let me learn to deal with greater pains later on.

      Right now, this is the biggest problem these kids have faced

    • @[email protected]
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      613 days ago

      The funny thing is that most people in the Western worlds would say the same thing you are hear, while there are probably billions of people who see their problems and would say that they were be feeling pretty great right now if they had them.

      We look at things like this as way “stupid kid with a narrow view” and don’t ask ourselves “man, how narrow is my own view and what an I missing about my own blessings?”

  • @can
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    11714 days ago

    Tbf that does sound like some bs

    • @[email protected]
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      514 days ago

      See, back in MY day, that kid would get his ass kicked. And the teacher would look the other way.

      Nowadays EVERYBODY in a fight gets suspended. Context doesn’t matter.

      Sorry whatever gen is after Z. Your generation is going to be full of assholes who all think they’re right, but 97% of them won’t be. It’s been a growing problem for 40 years ago. But at least you USED to punch the trouble makers in the mouth. Then they knew in the future to shut the fuck up.

      • @[email protected]
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        5814 days ago

        Is this a pasta or are you just a sociopath that wore a trenchcoat in school? It’s hard to tell these days.

        • @[email protected]
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          That’s just how it was in the 80s/90s. And it wasn’t like I’m saying I and I alone was dealing out justice to all those that pissed me off. I’m saying the reason teachers do this is SPECIFICALLY because of what I’m saying. The one kid does this annoying shit, and the whole classroom sends him home a bloody mess. And when he goes to complain to his mom, and his mom asks “What’d you do?” and he tells her, she punches him in the mouth and tells him to stop being a little shit at school, and the kids will stop beating his ass.

          • Lemminary
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            That second part is harsh but that’s how my grandparents treated my mother in the 60s. She and her siblings would get spanked if they made too much noise in a household of 8. I hope your parents didn’t treat you that way. I want to think some of those attitudes were dropped after the 80s.

            • @[email protected]
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              614 days ago

              My mom abandoned my dad, and thus me by assosiation, and my dad was so obsessed with asserting he has control of everyone and everything in his life, he usually just took everything out on me. Whether I had anything to do with it or not.

            • @[email protected]
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              313 days ago

              Nope. Depends on the parent. I still got beat up in the 80s/90s for closing the door too loudly, hitting my brother, waking mum up from an afternoon nap etc. It stopped when I was 17 because I was big enough to hit back (though I never did).

            • @can
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              513 days ago

              Man, it’s sad, but I totally believe that could have happened.

      • @[email protected]
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        313 days ago

        To be fair in my experience it was the troublemakers assaulting me. Children were not a righteous social police force that punished and rewarded specific behaviors.

        I feel like if you were the one “punching trouble makers in the mouth” you were probably also an asshole and it’s nice that you justify it to yourself this way I guess

      • @[email protected]
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        213 days ago

        In 1993-4 (8th grade) a jackass picked a fight with me once and tried to jump me while I was facing into my locker.

        I heard him and turned around to cover my face but had a pencil in my hand and ended up stabbing him in the eyebrow (luckily for us all, really).

        There was a teacher watching the whole thing, or else I would probably have been suspended with him. I spent an hour in the vice principal’s office and then went back to class. That bully never fucked with my again, but I’m not sure how it worked out for him in the long run.

  • @[email protected]
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    8614 days ago

    I’m 30 and majority of my friend group says Sigma, skibidi, rizz on a daily basis. Tiktok memes are getting everyone I can’t even laugh at these kids anymore because my friends are just as cringe but without the excuse of being 13.

  • BarqsHasBite
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    7214 days ago

    The kid probably gets a kick out of making the whole class stay. Punishment needs to exclude them, like that’s the very nature of punishment.

    • @[email protected]
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      8514 days ago

      From what I understand from my experience, the philosophy is that by pissing off the other kids they will call out the shitty kid when they act out.

      Of course, this has never worked a single time in human history, but schools keep fucking doing it for some reason.

      • DrDominate
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        3814 days ago

        It doesn’t work because bullying is punished by the school. How are they supposed to teach their peers valuable lessons. /s

        • @[email protected]
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          1114 days ago

          You use /s but that is the double standard I always thought of. That and how it seemed odd that they wanted us to be responsible for babysitting each other.

          Sorry this has got me a little heated bc this kinda shit happened to me all the time in school and it sucks to know it’s still an issue.

        • @[email protected]
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          714 days ago

          I’m autistic, so grain of salt, but I’ve been specifically advised to do something that feels like bullying to me by someone with a degree early child development. I think the difference is that I’m unlikely to take it too far, but maybe they were just a radical and I absolutely should not be doing this. What do you guys think:

          After a 3-5 year old kid goes to the bathroom, ask if they washed their hands, and if they say no, you make a grossed out face and say “eeeewww, that’s dirty. You need to do that before we can play together.”

          It’s obviously a more constructive type of “bullying” than is standard, and you’re supposed to pair it with exaggerated relief and excitement to play as soon as they’ve washed their hands, so the last impression in the kid’s head isn’t rejection, but it still feels mildly iffy to me. I’m fucking terrible with kids though, so I don’t trust my own instincts.

          • @[email protected]
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            413 days ago

            I don’t think it’s bullying, because bullying involves tormenting them - finding what they react negatively to, and pushing on that. Here, you’re letting them know that there’s something you need them to do before you’re comfortable playing with them. You might think of it as modelling how to protect your own bodily autonomy!

            For me, when my kids were going through that, I’d say something like “Ack! Don’t touch me with poo hands! Go wash first, then you can climb on me!” It’d generally get a giggle, then they’d go finish washing up. You’ll want to pay attention to their reaction whatever you do, but if you make it clear they’re still welcome to play, I don’t see how it could be bullying.

      • @[email protected]
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        2514 days ago

        It works in military settings, where you are expected to work as you team and keep an eye on your colleagues. Not so much in a school.

        • @[email protected]
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          2614 days ago

          You’re also talking about about people who are at least legally adults. 18 is a low bar until you compare it to 10.

      • @[email protected]
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        112 days ago

        Oh, it works… It turns the group against the kid. They may or may not attempt to police the behavior, but they won’t do it effectively. They will resent the kid though

        And isolated kids are famous for being obedient

  • Lemminary
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    3714 days ago

    Now what the young ladies in this grade need is an attitude makeover. And you’re going to get it, right now. I don’t care how long it takes. I will keep you here all night. (Joan the Secretary: We can’t keep them past four.) I will keep you here until four.

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    3114 days ago

    Growing up rural there were lots of troubled kids everyone basically ignored. Nothing would get through to them so their outbursts were basically ignored. One kid has a tic where he’d yell “yee haw, stick it in your grandma!”. Over and over.

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    I doubt this happened because of busses that’d leave or parents wondering where the hell their kids are while they are waiting.

    I doubt a private school would put up with a consistent disruptive student or with a teacher losing control of a class so bad that they keep everyone behind while also having to deal with angry paying parents.

    It’s possible but I doubt it’d happen more than once with that teacher.

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          1313 days ago

          In Germany it happens. But the teacher will get in trouble if smb. Snitches.

      • @[email protected]
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        414 days ago

        Yeah good point. I’m definitely guilty of looking at it through an NA centric lens on my post. Thanks for the perspective.

      • @[email protected]
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        114 days ago

        Often children from more rural areas take the bus there too. The parents would still be upset and I don’t even think normal detention is allowed at most schools (at least I don’t know of anyone who ended up there, just teachers scheduling extra lessons to make up for the lost time).

    • @[email protected]
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      413 days ago

      Yeah, teachers just make them miss part of their breaks or whatever during school hours. My kids are about this age and come home occasionally with stories of some kid who wrecks things for everyone resulting in missing outside or other free time, or loss of whatever break from class work that may have been offered as a reward for conformity.

    • @[email protected]
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      But this is from Reddit… Surely they are posting the truth and not attempting to tell embellishing stories because their life is not interesting in the slightest right?

      Arthur - “You really think someone would do that? Just go on the internet and tell lies?”

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      213 days ago

      They said they had to stay behind for 30 minutes, but they didn’t say what they stayed behind from. Lunch, maybe, or study hall? Recess, if they’re at a rare middle school that still offers it? Art? Seems like there’s a way it could work.

  • @[email protected]
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    1614 days ago

    Don’t worry, one day you’ll get to grow up and complain about the next generation behaving in the exact same way! Kids these days, amirite?

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      1014 days ago

      Our generation would have at least done something creative, like smear shit all over a bathroom stall, or leave scorch marks on the ceiling from deodorant flamethrowers, or scratch up a window with the teacher’s quartz crystal… Kids today don’t have the same spirit.

  • @[email protected]
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    1013 days ago

    I remember when a 10th grader banged a 7th grader in the chapel of my school. He was the son of a pastor too.