• southsamurai
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    2 months ago

    F&g

    That being said, for anyone that ever gets into a similar situation, the correct thing to say/do after the thumbs up is to say , “and thank you for sharing them with me. May I enjoy them more directly?”

    You can paraphrase that, it’s just the idea.

    But, my boob loving homies, it doesn’t matter if you’ve been married to the boob owner for decades, pay appreciation to them tiddies every time you get access to them, visually or otherwise. I promise you, it will never be a bad thing to give appreciation to a partner for sharing their body with you. You don’t have to be formal about it, something like “baby, I’m so happy you let me motorboat your funbags” will work if that’s the kind of relationship you have. Something like “honey, even after all the days and nights we’ve shared, I never stop being happy we’re together, and that you share yourself with me like this.” might be a bit better received by some.

    Fuck, for my dick loving homies out there, it works while you’re fondling balls too.

    Remember, sex is someone giving you full access to their body, with all the vulnerability that comes with that. Be aware of the wonder that it is. Share that wonder with them.

    I’m 50 now. I’ve had intimate access to women since I was under 18, with varying degrees of regularity. Never once has saying thank you in a genuine and personal way gone wrong. Not once.

    And I’ll tell you, when a partner says it to me, it never fails to make me happy.

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      2 months ago

      I thanked a girl for letting me fondle her tits and she immediately recoiled and told me never to thank girls for things like that again.

      So, it depends… But on what, exactly?

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        It depends on how into you/the situation they are, just like with everyone. Most people are more accepting of people saying weird shit (any kind of thing, not specifically thanking them) in the moment if they have an emotional connection to the person saying it or if they’re really horny.

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        Honestly? It’s about how you say it, and the person you’re with. You can’t say the same thing to everyone, it has to be genuine and “customized”. Which, I guess, comes down to making the right guess based on the interaction.

        An example. My wife and I have a very well matched sense of humor, and find joy in each other’s bodies. For her, me coming up with the silliest, most absurd ways to say it is part of the fun. So, when I have access to her boobs and say “gee Mrs Magoo, I haven’t felt boobs this nice since my kindergarten teacher that one time in the bathroom.”, it works she laughs, and she knows I love her body as much as her. But I can also be flowery if I want because she knows it isn’t bullshit.

        But, one ex of mine was what you might call rigid about sexual matters, and if I said something like that, it would have been over even sooner. But, telling her “I’m really lucky to be able to be with you like this” after running my hands over her breasts took it away from being “sexual” in her mind by virtue of vagueness. It would make her smile and kiss me.

        There’s no single way to go about it. It’s a matter of being in the moment, being connected.

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      Honestly, I found the most effective way to get the titty high is to grow them yourself. You can take this medication that’ll let you grow some right on your chest so you’ll always have access to a pair you can squeeze.

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      You might also ask what she wants to do.

      Usually, when things get going, my go-to has been “wow… Where do you want this to go?”

      Sometimes you don’t get an answer, and thats ok. Lots of people just get things going but expect you to then take charge.

      Other times I find that people have hopes for what they’d like to happen.

      And specifically asking about that is step one to giving someone exactly what they want.

      And thank yous are always nice. Both to hear and say.

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        I like that. I would like if someone said that to me.

        I’m so fortuitous that both my partner and myself are in camp “just say what you want, it’s not weird”

        All of my precious partners have been in camp “just do things, don’t say things” which I found so weird.

        Now I can just say “wanna do stuff in an hour?” And my partner will be like “eh maybe, do you wanna do stuff?” and if I say “yea” they’re like “dope aite”

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          Doing whatever you want, or having someone do whatever they want, can be really hot.

          But even if that’s what they want, I like to actually establish thats what they want/are ok with.

          Asking is just always a good idea, because then everyone is more likely to get exactly what they were hoping for.

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      2 months ago

      Grandma, I’m just eternally grateful every time you let me finger blast your ostomy port! 😍

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        I once, without looking, accidentally fondled a guy’s chemo port thinking it was an abnormally large and oddly placed nipple 😳 fuck you for reminding me