How people from high context culture tell their guest it’s time to leave: “whelp”
How people from low context culture tell their guess it’s time to leave: “I think you should leave”
Fun excruciating fact: the worse your social anxiety, the more desperate you might be to get rid of them and at the same time the less likely you are to go with the second option 😮💨
Fascinating, thanks for sharing!
That’s cool. I can’t think of menu low context cultures in any national scales, but definitely a few subcultures in the US.
Korea on the other hand is the epitome of high context culture.
Come to think of it, I don’t think I’ve ever seen anyone actually ask somebody to leave where I’m from. If it gets too late and our guests are still there, guess they’re staying the night. Luckily, most people leave before then.
I’ve lived most of my life in tiny Vermont villages, for context.MMmMMMMmmm thank you for that scrumptious link
It someone slaps their knees in my own house I start thinking of leaving
I saw a video yesterday that in Japan, your hosts will offer to serve green tea on rice. Apparently this is a hint for the guests to leave.
In Poland you just tell them there’s no more vodka.
Which of course is never true in Poland 😁
In Denmark, the host will sometimes serve soup or another light dish to signal that it’s time for them to leave. It’s actually informally known as “go away-food”
I wish I had the confidence and rudimentary cooking abilities to serve guests go away-food 😆
People who can’t cook: “I guess a have a new roommate now”
Leading to a training montage. Years later, your roommate tries your three thousandth attempt at fuck-off soup, smiles at you, stands up and says “whelp…”
In the Netherlands we have “fuck off coffee”, to be served after dinner.
Fuckoffee?
Nah, that’s different. Fuckoffee is coffee you drink to build up or maintain energy for prolonged sessions of fucking.
you sure it’s not called “annoying cancer-cunt-twat tuberculosis coffee”?
I think the literal translation of the name is “rot away coffee” so it might have something to do with tuberculosis or leprosy? The rest is reserved for special occasions, unless you’re from Rotterdam of course.
Lots of annoying cunts in Rotterdam?
Nah, that’s what you serve if a far right politician visits.
Are you expected to eat fuck off soup, or should you fuck off right away?
It’s up to you, really. You can fuck off right away, eat the soup and then fuck off or you can have fucked off before the soup was served 🤷
All roads lead to fuck off.
I need that on a doormat 😆
It isn’t that difficult.
Go away food doesn’t need to taste good. In fact, it helps them go away much faster.
What?! This simply is not true.
It very much is. Maybe it’s not a custom in your part of the country but here in Østjylland and in Himmerland, it definitely is.
So ist the logic behind this to say “looks we were planning on having dinner about now” implying that the guest is intruding but in order to show hospitality, you’d have to invite them to the meal, so you server some plain-ass soup that won’t cost you squat if the guest should accept your offer but is bland enough so that the guest will likely pass anyway?
I think it’s more like “we’ll give you a bit of food for the journey. Nothing too heavy so you’ll want to sit down for a long time, but decent food nonetheless. Now kindly scram”
Are you supposed to refuse the rice, or leave after eating the rice?
Refuse and it’s the cue to leave
I’m Brazilian and over here we can both, place a broom behind the front door or start doing the dishes
How does the act of placing a broom behind the front door signify the guest should leave? The broom is blocking the exit. 🤔
The door is open and the broom is visible between the wall and the door
Carrie Fisher would have her copy of the Star Wars Holiday Special if she wanted everyone to leave.
I just announce that the orgy is about to start and in less than a minute I’m alone. 😤
When I’m tired of the people, I just tell them to get the fuck out.
They get it.
I used to be more Midwestern, “Welp” or “Alright” kind of thing, but I’ve been becoming a bit more low context with time. Especially if I have my family with me. It’s a lot easier to terminate exchanges when you have a kid.
“I’m gonna go now” seems like it’s going to be too direct but people adjust pretty quickly in my experience. Or maybe everyone I know thinks I’m an asshole lol
I just speak plainly. It works wonders.
There are some people who don’t like it, but that’s just because they’re even bigger assholes.
Why wouldn’t people just say, “It’s getting late, this was fun, but I need to sleep so it’s time for everyone else to leave, let’s hang out again next week”?
Why can’t people be simple?
Yeah, I normally say “I can’t clog the bathroom with people listening” and that normally works
Hahah I love this one. Gonna have to use this sometime.
I have had hosts be this direct, and we all went, “okay,” and left. And came back when invited with no hard feelings. Usually D&D games, but also movie nights.
I just bounce
Even during my own parties or while I have people over. Stay as long as you like, even stay the night if you so desire, but I’m going to my room and passing out at 10pm no matter what, so you do you from that point on. It’s likely I’ll also forget to tell you I’m going to bed
What would stop a friend from stealth living with you then?
Ah, the Midwest goodbye. Also appropriate is a “whelp, I suppose.”
As a guest I am never this type of problem, as I will usually have done an “Irish goodbye” hours before this point. If I haven’t, my only problem would be not exclaiming out loud “oh thank god” when the host whelps.
I always want to leave but don’t wanna be rude so as soon as the host says “Wh-” I’m up and out the door.
