I’ve learned from my female friends that the bar for men is so fucking low. Basically shower regularly, listen to what other people say, know how to keep your home relatively clean and don’t be a creep and you’re immediately in the top 30%
I agree, but there’s is also the reallity that if you have no hobbies and no passions other than gooning you’re going to come off as pretty uninteresting and boring to most people. Some would call that being low-value
I mean sure buddy, but are you gonna open up the bar with “Let me tell you how dependable and good I am at communicating.” or are you gonna show her that by telling her about your hobbies and how you stick to them despite hardship. If you can’t talk about what you like, how are you gonna talk about the difficult stuff down the line?
I’d say well groomed is more important than “good looking”. If you look clean, your clothes are well fitted, hair and nails well trimmed and show some basic hair and skin care you look good regardless of what your face actually looks like.
Thinking that hobbies have no value, that’s teenager stuff. So is thinking that what applies to one woman applies to all.
Well groomed… really wasn’t necessary. I just wore a t-shirt and whenever I was interested in someone I would take off that t-shirt.
I was age 21-24 though, so teenager stuff might still have applied.
Met my wife when I was 24, now 6 years together.
So yeah, my experience with women basically is from age 17 to 24. As teenager, it was all about hobbies etc.
Now as a married man… my wife doesn’t give a fuck bout my hobbies, she’s pregnant so she wants someone dependable. Long term relationship so we need to be communicative.
Hobbies… we do things together. Outings, watching series. She suffers through my blabbering bout economic stuff that she really doesn’t care about. She watches me workout for the so maniest time.
When you’re looking for a relationship, all you need to do is have fun. Be charming. Your hobby can be whatever. They want you, not your hobby, not your grooming. If you’re fit and you can make her laugh, that’s all you need.
I mean sure, different people have different preferences when it comes to grooming. My point is more along the lines of: It doesn’t matter how funny you are if you stink and your hair is greasy.
Come on bruv, taking a shower takes 10 minutes a day.
I thought you meant like fine shaving your facial hair, making sure your hair length, fade, etc is always on point. Wearing suit or expensive clothing. Wearing perfume.
That’s grooming.
Taking a shower and brushing your teeth is the most basic thing
Others can decide over your value inside their own socials context, which lead to the value-judging person and their peers to act accordingly towards you.
If you apply this value to yourself or reject it and if other contexts and groups adopt the value is an other story.
Imagine the world is a video game. Higher value characters of the race man would have things like a high earning job (a good class), a decent amount of wealth, high physical stats, high charisma. Low value characters would have a terrible class (smelly gamer), stats they believe are skewed towards intelligence, and no money.
If your world view is like this except you also believe there are hidden stats you can’t ever change(like looks), and you’re in a capitalist nightmarescape where even changing your class and amount of wealth is typically impossible, then you’ve accidently an entire incel.
What the fuck is “low value men”? No one else can decide your value.
I’ve learned from my female friends that the bar for men is so fucking low. Basically shower regularly, listen to what other people say, know how to keep your home relatively clean and don’t be a creep and you’re immediately in the top 30%
I agree, but there’s is also the reallity that if you have no hobbies and no passions other than gooning you’re going to come off as pretty uninteresting and boring to most people. Some would call that being low-value
Nah low value isn’t about hobbies and stuff. That’s teenager stuff.
It’s quite easy… be dependable, be able to communicate, be good looking, charisma, …
Girls don’t give a shit about your hobbies unless they also have those exact same hobbies.
I mean sure buddy, but are you gonna open up the bar with “Let me tell you how dependable and good I am at communicating.” or are you gonna show her that by telling her about your hobbies and how you stick to them despite hardship. If you can’t talk about what you like, how are you gonna talk about the difficult stuff down the line?
I’d say well groomed is more important than “good looking”. If you look clean, your clothes are well fitted, hair and nails well trimmed and show some basic hair and skin care you look good regardless of what your face actually looks like.
Thinking that hobbies have no value, that’s teenager stuff. So is thinking that what applies to one woman applies to all.
Well groomed… really wasn’t necessary. I just wore a t-shirt and whenever I was interested in someone I would take off that t-shirt.
I was age 21-24 though, so teenager stuff might still have applied.
Met my wife when I was 24, now 6 years together.
So yeah, my experience with women basically is from age 17 to 24. As teenager, it was all about hobbies etc.
Now as a married man… my wife doesn’t give a fuck bout my hobbies, she’s pregnant so she wants someone dependable. Long term relationship so we need to be communicative.
Hobbies… we do things together. Outings, watching series. She suffers through my blabbering bout economic stuff that she really doesn’t care about. She watches me workout for the so maniest time.
When you’re looking for a relationship, all you need to do is have fun. Be charming. Your hobby can be whatever. They want you, not your hobby, not your grooming. If you’re fit and you can make her laugh, that’s all you need.
I mean sure, different people have different preferences when it comes to grooming. My point is more along the lines of: It doesn’t matter how funny you are if you stink and your hair is greasy.
Come on bruv, taking a shower takes 10 minutes a day.
I thought you meant like fine shaving your facial hair, making sure your hair length, fade, etc is always on point. Wearing suit or expensive clothing. Wearing perfume.
That’s grooming.
Taking a shower and brushing your teeth is the most basic thing
Incels are low value men…but not for the reason they think
Others can decide over your value inside their own socials context, which lead to the value-judging person and their peers to act accordingly towards you.
If you apply this value to yourself or reject it and if other contexts and groups adopt the value is an other story.
A “low value man” is a man that tries to decide another ones value.
Imagine the world is a video game. Higher value characters of the race man would have things like a high earning job (a good class), a decent amount of wealth, high physical stats, high charisma. Low value characters would have a terrible class (smelly gamer), stats they believe are skewed towards intelligence, and no money.
If your world view is like this except you also believe there are hidden stats you can’t ever change(like looks), and you’re in a capitalist nightmarescape where even changing your class and amount of wealth is typically impossible, then you’ve accidently an entire incel.