• RowRowRowYourBotEnglish
    11·
    5 hours ago

    What the fuck is “low value men”? No one else can decide your value.

    • Randomgal@lemmy.ca
      6·
      4 hours ago

      I agree, but there’s is also the reallity that if you have no hobbies and no passions other than gooning you’re going to come off as pretty uninteresting and boring to most people. Some would call that being low-value

      • Wanpieserino@lemm.ee
        12·
        3 hours ago

        Nah low value isn’t about hobbies and stuff. That’s teenager stuff.

        It’s quite easy… be dependable, be able to communicate, be good looking, charisma, …

        Girls don’t give a shit about your hobbies unless they also have those exact same hobbies.

    • green_copper@kbin.earth
      5·
      4 hours ago

      No one else can decide your value.

      Others can decide over your value inside their own socials context, which lead to the value-judging person and their peers to act accordingly towards you.
      If you apply this value to yourself or reject it and if other contexts and groups adopt the value is an other story.

    • x00z@lemmy.worldEnglish
      3·
      4 hours ago

      A “low value man” is a man that tries to decide another ones value.

    • yunxiaoliEnglish
      2·
      4 hours ago

      Imagine the world is a video game. Higher value characters of the race man would have things like a high earning job (a good class), a decent amount of wealth, high physical stats, high charisma. Low value characters would have a terrible class (smelly gamer), stats they believe are skewed towards intelligence, and no money.

      If your world view is like this except you also believe there are hidden stats you can’t ever change(like looks), and you’re in a capitalist nightmarescape where even changing your class and amount of wealth is typically impossible, then you’ve accidently an entire incel.

    • Monument@lemmy.sdf.orgEnglish
      13·
      6 hours ago

      I had this happen to me in my 30’s. (Sorta.)

      Polyamory - a woman who hadn’t been taking on new partners started dating me. My other girlfriend’s husband began awkwardly pursuing her with no grace or finesse. It got awkward. An acquaintance learned that I was dating the second woman (who had also only recently gotten back into the scene), and began pursuing her.

      It’s like some guys think that because a woman is available to one (well, two or three), she’s available to all. It felt very much like blood in the water to a shark.