I was told this the day after my father died. I was walking to my college class just trying to act normal. Wish I would have responded appropriately but being shell shocked over bigger problems prevented me.
I have no problem mouthing off to assholes - as long as I’m prepared. When it comes out of nowhere, my brain stalls up.
I have an overabundance of “staircase wit”.
The correct response, and ive actually done this becausebim a complete edgelord and its my default was "you’re right. Grandma was a racist bitch; I should be happy she’s dead. Thanks mister!’
Most of the time changing your face does change your mood. It’s not awful advice, and letting it out can help people empathize. It’s almost never meant to be demeaning or patronizing.
This happened to me about 10 minutes after I found out my childhood best friend committed suicide.
“OH SMILE! IT CANT BE THAT BAD!”
I just let it slide and paid for my damn smokes, lady was just trying to be upbeat and friendly. Dumping that on her would have just made her feel bad and wouldnt have made me feel any better.
Honestly sometimes people should be made to feel bad, and making comments to strangers about how they aren’t performing pleasantness satisfactorily enough for the general public is one of those times. Not dumping it on them definitely makes you the bigger person, but if someone doesn’t want people dumping their problems on them then telling every upset looking stranger “it can’t be that bad!” is the absolute worst way to go about it, lol.
Yeah, I think it speaks to the bubble that she lives in. Bubbles exist to pop, and I think being told exactly that it can be that bad is the perfect way to do it.
It also could’ve been a lesson for her in being overly flippant with people who do sometimes have genuine problems they are mired in.
If anyone is wondering, it’s Jael or Yael, and Sisera. He was a defeated Canaanite general who fled to what he thought was a friendly village, but Jael had Israelite sympathies so she hammered a tent spike through his head while he slept. The image is from an illuminated 14th century manuscript from Germany.
And for anyone else wondering, im pretty sure this meme is from womens subs because they get told things like “youd be prettier if you smiled” or other cunty shite like that
The outfits are a bit anachronistic given the events allegedly took place in 10th century BCE Judea.
That was not usually part of the medieval illuminator’s mindset, I’m afraid. Communicating the social status and role of the two Biblical characters in a familiar context for the reader would typically have been more important to them.
I was indeed wondering, so thank you!
Thanks for sharing this! You explained it better than I could have.
This story appears in the Old Testament in Judges 4:15-22
If you want someone to smile, you don’t tell them to smile, that will just piss them off. The real solution is to try to make them smile by cheering them up. Ideally with something funny or wholesome. Who knows? They might really appreciate it and be a bit more fond of you.
puppet shows are funny and wholesome
Like memes?
Yes, provided that you already have their number and don’t send anything too risky. Following someone around with your phone to show them memes might freak them out if you don’t know them.
“Hey Lady! Stop running, I just want to show you my memes!”
“Get away from me!”
That is not socially acceptable.
open your cellphone and show this exactly meme trust me
I like to chat people up and get their number then disappoint them by sending a deluge of maymays
Hemalurgy moment
Could be wrong but I dont think misogyny is a form of investiture.
I just want you to know that this comment made me legit belly laugh so loud I scared my pets. A quip worthy of a king’s Wit!
Maybe it’s the forgotten 17th Shard that is spread out all over the Cosmere?? That would explain why all humans tend to be mysogynistic.
You look more breedable when you smile
Don’t smile like an idiot in your work Teams profile picture. Somebody might have a really bad day and you’re in their way.
…especially if you’re a mortician or something similar.
Unsiutably happy mortician is my favorite category of human. But, like, in a kind way. Love it.
Then, I guess, just pout.
