The highlight for me is coming up with some weird pseudoscience justification for why it’s okay to hit your kids.

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    Every article on pronatalism in the past few years has been these two Thiel-sponsored white nationalist dweebs and nobody else. Why the fuck does the Guardian fall for this shit too.

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      @dgerard

      I contacted the reporter via her website, to ask what motivated the story when the Guardian just wrote about them last year, and if the couple’s PR rep (who I assume exists) had instigated it.

      I don’t really expect to hear back but it sure would be interesting to know.

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        It’s worth noting in the Grauniad’s defence that the piece which mentioned them (among others) last year wasn’t a commissioned interview article, it was a column by Arwa Mahdawi. Columnists usually have a regular gig to write opinion pieces on some topic relevant to their interests and then submit them for publication – in other words, they don’t have an editor telling them to go and cover something, they write about what they feel like writing about even if it turns out to be at odds with the paper’s editorial policy (e.g. Simon Jenkins, who is a Guardian columnist despite regularly expressing some highly un-Guardian-reader views). As Mahdawi is a columnist who regularly focuses on feminist issues and the United States this would be entirely within her field of interest.

        Still doesn’t mean these people deserve yet more coverage, though. I hope their kids get out of this toxic family having suffered as little harm as possible from a mother who apparently thinks that the only solution to “cheap, good-quality snowsuits bought from Russia” not fitting when you’re pregnant is dressing like a tradwife and a father who really doesn’t seem to like them and who does an abuse in front of a journalist which he thinks he can just explain away with pseudoscientific bullshit as “hey, that looked like abuse but it wasn’t, it was SCIENCE”.

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          I really really don’t get how wearing a corset* while you’re pregnant is somehow the most rational option

          *Don’t come @ me corset fans, I’m sure they are very comfortable, but while you’re pregnant? Eight months pregnant?

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      That’s because there is no “movement” and the whole thing is a stunt to promote the ideas of the least thoughtful of all the unthoughtful people who nonetheless consider themselves intellectuals.

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      Honestly any day the Guardian isn’t publishing transphobia wearing a feminism mask is a good day for them.

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      My Papaw has ten brothers and sisters and dropped out of the sixth grade to become an entrepreneur, but I don’t see the Guardian beating a path to his door.

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    The Collinses are atheists; they believe in science and data, studies and research. Their pronatalism is born from the hyper-rational effective altruism movement

    This is just gonna be eugenics, isn’t it?

    Malcolm describes their politics as “the new right – the iteration of conservative thought that Simone and I represent will come to dominate once Trump is gone.”

    What’s that now? Neo-alt-right? You can’t just add another fucking prefix anytime your stupid fascist movement goes off rails.

    One of the reasons why I chose to have only have two children is because I couldn’t afford to give more kids a good life; the bigger home, the holidays, the large car and everything else they would need.

    Yeah, what about giving them love or a warm relationship, or, you know, time?

    And then they wonder why those generations have shitty relationships with their parents when they seriously believe that what they need is a big fucking car, as if that’s the variable that was missing in all of this.

    Excuse me while I go and hug my daughter. I need to de-rationalize myself after reading this.

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      I love how the journalist just reprints their reskinned Great Replacement theory at face value.

      And importing people from Africa to support a mostly non-working white population – because you didn’t put in labour to support non-working white people – has really horrible optics.

      Ah, so the reason you’re concerned about falling white birth rates and don’t want immigration is because it’s racist to allow “people from Africa” to immigrate to your country. Got it.

      I appreciate that the journalist was shocked by the bad parenting but I’d have appreciated a little more fact checking on the naked racist conspiracies.

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      What’s that now? Neo-alt-right?

      I assume it is neoreaction. Not sure if you are a recent poster here, or were aware of sneerclub when it was on reddit but we talked about NRx there every now and then. (Not a fan).

      I don’t know if the Collins are NRx, what I do know is that neoreactionary podcasters love the Collins. (According to a quick google search). And bonus for David Gerard, Grimes has reached out to the Collins source is the grimezs long post on Grimes her links to all this shit

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          Ow yeah, it certainly paints them in a very bad light, and I will not argue against others calling them NRx, or neo-nazis, I just like a little bit more proof myself because im a bit pedantic at times, but in practice it doesn’t really matter if the ‘we worry about great replacement r-strategists(*) racists’ are NRx/nazis or not).

          *: For those just tuning in. (Turn back! Stop reading! Go away, innocence once lost cannot be regained!) claiming non-white people are r-strategists while white people are K-strategists is a big far right foghorn. (wiki page on the theory) In their bs theory they ignore that this is about differences between species (of course they are also racists so yeah, this isn’t hypocritical on their part, just a sign of racism), and r-strats are physically impossible for humans, as we don’t have enough nipples + we take too long to mature etc.

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            yeah, at that point we’re past “quacks like a duck” and “precise subspecies of mallard” into which groups are hanging out in which ponds this week

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              Yeah and a lot of “precise subspecies of mallard” people don’t really seem to care that the ducks keep attacking the children playing in the park and have learned to shit on peoples heads. In fact, they start to call the people who are being attacked by the ducks, ducks themselves (some of the ‘worried about subspecies’ people even look suspiciously like 3 ducks in a trenchcoat).

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        Well damn, I used to lurk on old sneer club, but I gotta admit I missed that particular rabbit hole so far.

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      What’s that now? Neo-alt-right? You can’t just add another fucking prefix anytime your stupid fascist movement goes off rails.

      It reminds me of how terrible sports teams will frequently change their logo and uniforms. (e.g. Vanderbilt’s University’s gridiron football team). Obviously, their lack of success is a branding problem.

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      These idiots are atheist and conservatives? Morons, they’re morons. The only thing that conservatives do to atheist is put them up against the wall when they have the chance. You throw it nationalism and it’s a damn guarantee

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        They’ll stop being atheists and start fully being “tradwivies” the very instant their ingroup requires it. Give or take 7 seconds after the purges begin.

        They aint nothing but disengenious.

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    “Dad, why is my sister’s name Octavia George?

    “Because your mother loves the Roman Empire.”

    “Thanks Dad.”

    “No problem Industry Americus.”

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      Jesus Christ I thought you were making a joke.

      But you’re not.

      The imminent arrival of their fourth child, a girl they plan to name Industry Americus Collins

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        The imminent arrival of their fourth child, a girl they plan to name Industry Americus Collins

        ah well, at least when they transition they won’t need to change the masculine-gendered second name.

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        no matter how absurd you may think these people are, they always surprise you by finding ways to be even worse

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      Looks like someone’s behind the times; all the cool kids are into the Eastern Roman Empire this season. That’s why my kids are named Constantine Cataphractus and Velociraptor Paleologus.

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    They bought this house and the one next door for $575,000; they allow their neighbours to live in the second house rent free, in exchange for childcare.

    Seems normal !

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      This is part of a whole thing where the journalist keeps presenting their framing without question. Is it “allow their neighbours to live in the second house rent free, in exchange for childcare” or is it “they have unpaid live-in nannies in a staff apartment”? Do they “give everything they can spare to charity” or are they landlords who own property they don’t live in? Is she wearing a corset and chemise from etsy because it’s practical, or because these weirdos have put on staged cosplay performances for every journalist who’s ever interviewed them, and you’re no exception?

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        Yeah these people have found their weird PR niche. There’s nothing separating these people from other rich white Americans who can also comfortably provide for ~3 kids with good schooling and higher education. The real pronatalists are the scary Quiverful people who are a lot more numerous but are also religious fundies. There’s no way the Collinses can compete with them because that subculture already believes around 90% of what they believe but are more effective at spreading their memes.

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        This is part of a whole thing where the journalist keeps presenting their framing without question.

        Yuuup, and at no point is it explicitly mentioned that what they’re doing is entirely unfeasible on a societal level. How on Earth will a couple dozen rationalist having 4, 7, or even 11 kids make up for the hundreds of millions of women in America having 1.5? Or the billions of women having under 2.1 kids in the rest of the world.

        On top of that, they only have 3 kids and they’ve already put a shit ton of time and sunk themselves over half a million in debt just for housing and childcare. I absolutely believe these two can afford it, but this isn’t something most Americans can achieve, much less most global families. One couple trying to outfuck global population decline would be like if I tried to end global poverty by becoming really, really rich.

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      Wow, these people have not planned anything at all. They’re going to homeschool all 7+ kids? And go into politics, a job that infamously has long, unsociable hours?

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        No, they’re counting on not spending time with their children. Their worldview is all about populating, not educating.

        In fact, if you pester any of these people how they would plan to educate all these millions of new children you’ll quickly find out that either:

        • That is actually not planned for at all (hand waving).
        • They actually only want certain (White people of means) to be having lots of kids.
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        No need to plan things when you can use Rationalism, nominative determinism, and first principles to get over any troubles. Also the people who give them gifts are very rich.

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    "Malcolm had a turbulent childhood that he clearly doesn’t want to talk about. He comes from a wealthy family and grew up in Dallas, but was sent to a “troubled teen” residential facility when he was 11. The only reason he can give me for being sent there was that his parents were getting divorced and were locked in a bitter custody dispute, and the judge “thought I shouldn’t be with either parent”. After that, he lived at a private boarding school, with his fees and expenses covered by a family trust. “I have no beef with my parents. My childhood was hard, but my adulthood has been easy. Can I say a parent did a bad job if I’m happy with my life today? I don’t think so.” "

    L to the O to the motherfucking L. These people are just reacting to their trauma and acting like they’ve found some magical answer to life being hard. Their poor children.

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      The combination of the mother being all “I got raised by hippies, which I hated so I am doing the opposite”, “we are very rational”, " our kids will obviously be like us, only better". Can’t they put these pieces together?

      Well, with that many children, at least one will write a book about how their childhood sucked.

      Chapter 1, I am so cold When I think about my childhood, I think about freezing…

      Chapter 12, Stop hitting me dad!

      And so on.

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      After that, he lived at a private boarding school

      expenses covered by a family trust

      My childhood was hard

      oh no trust fund baby had hard childhood

      however, it’s nowhere as hard as their children childhood is gonna be

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      These people are just reacting to their trauma and acting like they’ve found some magical answer to life being hard.

      Big Kissinger energy

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    Malcolm and Simone Collins with their children – Octavian George, four, Torsten Savage, two, and Titan Invictus, one – at home in Pennsylvania.

    bye

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    My favourite bit is the bit about “you can afford it, just choose a more frugal lifestyle” while young people today literally can’t afford to feed themselves. Also how about your ability to love your kids? Didn’t see that in any of your spreadsheets and your kids will hate you for giving them a shitty upbringing.

    Close runner up is the bit about how we’ve had centuries of population growth, and it’s a huge deal that we’re not growing anymore without noting that all those centuries also included events such as wars and epidemics regularly killing off sizeable percentages of the population which doesn’t happen on the same scale anymore.

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      Oh wait I got this, how about the bit about the oldest child taking care of the younger ones. They get to grow up fast and spend their precious time being an unpaid babysitter instead of actually being a kid pretty much ruining their childhood.

      Or how about the bit where the parents deliberately have so many kids gambling one will get rich and take care of them when their old. These natalists are delusional and I actually know a few irl that have said or done these and frankly its fuckin disgusting to me

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        Oh wait I got this, how about the bit about the oldest child taking care of the younger ones. They get to grow up fast and spend their precious time being an unpaid babysitter instead of actually being a kid pretty much ruining their childhood.

        Common practice among quiverfull creeps.

        My mum grew up in Ireland in the 60s (one of 8 children) and witnessed some of this at school: little girls from families of 15 or 20, missing classes so they could mind their younger siblings.

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    some weird pseudoscience justification for why it’s okay to hit your kids.

    It is to me so weird how often this comes up. A big plot point in starship troopers (the book) was that due to not hitting kids (and a vague handwave at criminals but mostly kids) western democracies fell for example.

    Now I wonder how the NRx with their pro corporal punishment stance (which iirc Scott liked) feel about hitting kids.

    Im also annoyed at how much words are written about the Collins. Stop promoting these doofuses. (They have come up in sneerclub before) (Late edit: She said she was really unsettled by this interview on twitter Sorry to hear you stared into the abyss Jenny, and I didn’t mean this as a personal attack towards you (not that you will read this but yeah))

    E: a thing I was wondering about, with the pronatalist technofetishists, who say that both we will all die out by lack of births as old people starve, and who fetishize AGI and robot labour causing a post scarcity world, that seems contradictory, I wonder how the Rationalists deal with this contradiction.

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      Im also annoyed at how much words are written about the Collins. Stop promoting these doofuses. (They have come up in sneerclub before)

      Apologies. First time poster, all that stuff.

      The corporal punishment thing is a weirdly Anglophone obsession – assaulting (sorry, “smacking”) your kids has been a crime here since 1977 and the kids seem to be alright as well as having the bonus of being less likely to have grown up surrounded by violence and the threat of violence. In 7 years here I’ve seen exactly one person hit a child in public (looked a lot like a visiting grandma from elsewhere) and it came as a real shock. The more the Collins types (and, of course, fundie types) try to justify this as “normal” the less normal it appears to everyone else.

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        Starship troopers was written in 1959 so it predates the ban by a bit at least. (I assume there was already research on it being bad in the works then, as ST goes out of its way to decry the social sciences as fake research, but their moral system which is based on math (never explained in the book, which is prob good as it would be highly contradictory, as going to war to save a few POWs is seen as just, no matter the number of lives lost) is correct. It is a really weird book to read in 2020).

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          I’ve actually read Starship Troopers a long time ago and it’s probably not too far out of line politically from other “silver age” SF. Heinlein had a weird career…

          FWIW from memory Samuel R Delany (Black gay SF author) wrote somewhere that the realization that Johnny Rico was from the Philippines (he speaks Tagalog near the end) was very liberating for him personally as a form of inclusion. And Heinlein could probably truthfully state the only way he was “racist” was he was against the Bugs but for the entire human race.

          The movies’ lack of any PoC character whatsoever was probably Verhoven’s way of playing with the Nazi imagery.

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            The movie and the book are a lot closer together than you would think btw. Might want to give it a re-read, esp with what you know now about the common (far)-right arguments. Not that the arguments in the book are good mind you, it mostly falls back on ‘this is a science trust us’ which is quite weak.

            The movie also does have black people in it, in fact the strategic savior of the human race was a black woman. Source (the rest of the propaganda clips also has quite a lot of poc in it, even if the principle cast included none.

            And that brings me back to the racism in the book, while it doesn’t have overt ‘I need to shout slurs at nonwhite people’ racism, it contains quite a lot of 'other species/animals/countries (it nicely never uses the terms in a racist way, but it speaks about these groups in similar matters, so it is quite obvious that this just leads to racist bs as we have seen a lot in our times) as in conflict and the one breeding faster (!!!) wins the conflict. It seemed clear to me on which side of the debate about for example native americans vs europeans the book would be (I’m from city X and I say …).

            Other fun fact about the book vs movie. You prob know the ‘violence solves more problems bla bla bla’ ‘what would the cityfathers of hiroshima say’ lines from the movie, these are also in the book, but there the argument (due to in part being about animals) is worse.

            So long story short, I’m happy for Samuel R Delany that there was some liberation for him which is good (also note that the realization about the non-white people should have come a little bit earlier as the girl is called Carmencita Ibanez (I’m very western European btw, so I might be wrong here as I’m not that great about all the subtleties of various racial interplays in the Americas), also she was apparently a bit of a hussy according to Juan “Johnnie” Rico) esp as it was a different time, and science fiction from that era can be dire (before that it gets even worse!) compared to our current morals, but the book itself is still very problematic (it gets weirder if you interpret the book as being told by an unreliable, slightly dumb nepobaby, which imho the book supports).

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            yes, it was deliberate choice (along with using nazi-borrowed uniforms and tons of visual quotes from fucking leni riefenstahl.)

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        now you’ve got me wondering if it’s anglophone imported culture war, or are there some other influences, like catholic church, and to what degree

        when corporal punishment was banned in my country in 2010, it was preceded by informational campaign on the state side and intolerable bitching by conservatives. when the law passed, conservatives shut the fuck up about it seemingly forever, it would make sense if it was cultural import that is if they never really held these opinions

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          I believe it’s true of more or less any country: most people are pro-hitting kids until you ban the practice and it becomes obvious that it’s unacceptable (at least in overt discourse). Premier exemple of the educational potential of a law. (And now the right can pivot to racist rhetoric about which demographics don’t accept our rules and hit their kids.)

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          If you walked by some strangers having a conversation with each other out in public and one of them said something you didn’t understand, would you go running up to them saying “please don’t talk to each other without explaining everything to me, I think you’re making stuff up because I don’t have all the context”?

          (You would not.)

          If you have something to ask OP, ask it. Politely. Don’t come in to somebody else’s conversation demanding context and calling them a liar.

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            @gnomicutterance @VirtualOdour Well, exactly. For the benefit of Mr Odour here, I’m in Austria (that’s the one without the kangaroos) where although physical punishment of children was first made an explicit offence in 1989 the “right” of parents to hit their children was removed from §145 of the Allgemeine Bürgerliche Gesetzbuch in 1977. Here’s the 1811 text that was deleted. Happy now?

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              I’m fed up with you shitting up this discussion you weren’t invited to participate in

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                Of course I was invited this is a public forum, are you lost?

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              “basic consideration” the fuck? you fucking walked into the thread sight unseen and started throwing your toys out

              find some grass, and sit on it

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      I mean in this article they claim that girlfriend will be able to have seven kids, spaced a year and a half apart, and homeschool them, and still keep her career. They’re obviously not too concerned about contradictory statements.

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        Yeah saw the whole longread reddit comments tear them apart over this, esp as she is 36 already and had a few c-sections or something, which isn’t all that great for your body.

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          She is obviously not a very nice person but he really is a piece of work. Yeah, go on, encourage your wife to risk her health and her life to have kids you aren’t even interested in.

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    Does anyone else feel like we are setting up to a near future where people who choose not to have kids are seriously discriminated against?

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      It’s already here. I was sterilized (I don’t want kids, have a SEVERE genetic disability that I’d passn on, can’t afford my own house, like to sleep in, enjoy traveling, think the world is overpopulated enough, etc) and get attacked by men and women anytime I mention it.

      I’ve apparently

      • “destroyed my body”
      • “Fucked up the only reason women exist”
      • “Chosen to die alone”
      • “Failed my country and family”
      • “Made a selfish decision”
      • “Chosen to be a slut instead of a mom”
      • “Become useless to any man”

      The list goes on. If I change my mind, I’ll adopt. There’s nearly 400,000 children in the US foster care system and that number has nearly DOUBLED since Roe v Wade…

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        “Chosen to be a slut instead of a mom.” Wow. I’ve heard some madness in my time but that is a magnificent sentence that says so much more about the speaker than it ever could about you.

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          I flat out write “childfree” on dating and social apps, so people think that gives them permission to attack. I’ve encountered a LOT of men with breeding kinks.

          I think the worst was after RvW got overturned, several of my other childfree friends got rape threats because then they’d be forced to carry their psychotic fan’s child. (I’m a professional cosplayer, so are the girls that got these messages)

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            I’m watching all this US from a distance and it’s just fucking…bewildering and surreal to see it go as it does

            but I still remember that it happens to real people, and then to read things like this. fuck. that’s so fucking grim.

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              I’ve seen so many girls posting that if aborting a rape baby will get you the death penalty, than you might as well take the rapist out while you’re at it. I’m so glad I’m sterilized.

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      The entire “the world is running out of people” meme is just an attempt to find a non-religious rationale to limit reproductive choice.

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          Yeah, when talking about certain countries and groups of people it’s suddenly “oh no we are having overpopulation” and “[people in africa/asia/with a different skin colour from mine] need to stop breeding”

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      as far as I can tell that has been the situation at every point in western history, although I see what you mean about it getting worse compared to the status quo

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      Yeah, I don’t even tell people that that’s the reason I don’t have kids. Just that me and my husband are infertile, which is true because he had a vasectomy years ago.

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    I’m getting a vasectomy on Thursday. I won’t ever be able to afford kids, or likely my own home. The vasectomy is $228 out of pocket after insurance. That I can afford.

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      Congrats! I am on the other side of mine and am going to verify a sample to get cleared.

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      @mawhrin @mpk “They’ve had the genomes of their frozen embryos tested and are selecting which ones to implant according to how well they score on intelligence and future health.”

      That goes even creepier than I expected. Why did Guardian feel the need to do a second profile of them in what, a year?

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    I’m calling it now: these kids will have terrible childhoods, and seeing the moral bankruptcy of right wing ideologies up close will radicalize them into being militant leftists.

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        York and the surrounding counties are currently very much a culture war battleground. There’s a bunch of school board initiated censorship, bomb threats against libraries (and then subsequent defunding of those unless they promise not to do anything that could cause offense to domestic terrorists), that sort of thing. (Edit: forgot to mention the hate tracker, some more stuff I didn’t think I wanted to know about my own neighbors)

        That crap is done by people and I imagine these folks are among those doing it, and so are their friends and neighbors.

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          @Kata1yst

          Not really? It’s just the Philadelphia suburbs. 14 miles northwest of where I saw Fishbone and Primus.

          Pennsylvania gets a looooot more Pennsyl-tucky than that.

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            “Suburbs of Philadelphia” is pretty funny to me - it’s a 2:15+h car ride there from Philly. Americans might consider 100 miles a short commute, but dang. When does a part of PA stop being a Philly suburb and start being a Pittsburgh suburb?

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              @antifuchs

              50 miles, not 100 miles.

              25 miles each way is not that big of a deal. In college I spent six months commuting 40 minutes each way (traffic gods willing it wouldn’t be longer) from 31st street to Springhouse, PA.

              Valley Forge is definitely at the limits of what I’d put up with though, unless there’s good train service.

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                I was wondering if we are looking at the same map, and then it turns out there are two Valley Forges: one is a neighborhood in (yep!) the Philly suburbs, the other is a township next to York, PA. The latter is what I was referring to!

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                  Ah, that explains it. I wonder which one they live in.

                  Actually it’s probably the York one because “Valley Forge" by Philadelphia apparently isn’t really a town in its own right.

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            Fair. I always thought of Pennsyl-Tucky was more a state of mind/politics rather than an area, but I’m not a local and haven’t been in the area for years so I’m inclined to believe you.

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          (fwiw this reply was only like 0.01% more informative than the original thing, but from other people’s comments I got to figure things out. please try to remember that there is more world out there than just eaglegunscountry)