• LeonenTheDK@lemmy.ca
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    5 hours ago

    What’s with the boomer ellipsis? It’s so consistent among the older folks I see. I don’t understand why every sentence needs to be trailing off.

    Good for gramps though! Power to him.

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      8 minutes ago

      The boomer ellipsis drives me nuts. It gives me a very ominous feeling, like something is being left unsaid that I’m supposed to extrapolate. The only time I use an ellipsis in text is when I want to indicate that the thought is incomplete.

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      2 hours ago

      Yeesh, this is boomer stuff? I’m an elder millennial and use them all the time. It’s like a forced pause or an uhm, so reading something reads more like speech.

    • Carl
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      1 hour ago

      You never know when you need to use them…

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      4 hours ago

      My dad is genX and uses it the same way. I have explained it to him multiple times that it’s like sighing at someone.

      • Naz
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        4 hours ago

        They got their old man sigh in text form

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      2 hours ago

      Around here, the same kind of demographic often replaces the ellipsis with ‘,’. It’s both mind-boggling and fascinating, raising so many questions that I’m neither mentally prepared nor qualified to ponder.

      • gamer@lemm.ee
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        2 hours ago

        I think that’s just a common typo. The difference between '. ’ and ', ’ is hard to spot unless you have good eyesight, and they’re close together on the keyboard

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      4 hours ago

      I find that I slip into the same habit sometimes – specifically, when I’m typing something where perfect grammar will come off as overly formal, but I’m stressing a bit over what level of informality is appropriate. It taxes the frontal lobes, which means that my thoughts are disjointed in a way that ellipses just make sense with. I think it’s so widespread among older people because when they were first introduced to instant messaging, they weren’t sure how they would come off, and then it became a habit. But that’s just me guessing.

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      5 hours ago

      I used to have a boss like that, he’d toss in an ellipsis at the most inappropriate locations.

      It made all his emails appear sarcastic. Leave it to a guy who focused primarily on decorum instead of substance to send an email like

      “Good job…”

      and not know how that reads.

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      5 hours ago

      My mom does it all the time. I asked her about it once, and she said it’s a habit while her thoughts catch up. Basically, a text version of ‘umm’.

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      4 hours ago

      My dad does this so much and I asked him about it once. He said he thinks it makes everything sound very chill and low pressure. I think it makes everything sound passive aggressive, or like it’s a loaded statement🤦‍♂️

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      6 hours ago

      Is that the rule? I always thought it was half the higher age plus seven to get the minimum.

      So 18 -> 22, 31-> 48

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      6 hours ago

      Stop infantilizing women.

      "Are they consenting adults"is the only question people should be allowed to ask about a couple without being publicly shamed.

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        3 hours ago

        A. There was zero infantalizing going on here, not sure you understand what that means because it doesn’t apply to the statement you are responding to.

        B. Maybe you mean that the poster should give more credit to women and not assume they will all be victims to an older male.

        C. Him manipulating her is not the issue. The assumption is she is looking for a meal ticket. He is more at risk to being manipulated than she is.

        D. Pretty sure the poster was making a joke anyway, since it would mean if they were 30, they would only date someone who was 67 or older.

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        5 hours ago

        I am 31. I will make sure to go to the local high school to find girls who just turned 18 and woo them with cheap gifts. No imbalance of power or manipulation happening between consenting adults, amirite?

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          There is a legitimate argument to be made with reasonable people on both sides as to exactly how old is old enough to confidently say that there’s not a power imbalance due to age alone. Whether that’s 18, 21, 24 or some other number is an open question.

          30+? If they wanna date somebody more than double their age, that’s completely their business.