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    Honestly I loved anime growing up but I went on a date with a guy in college who spent the entire date talking about anime in a manner that communicated his big tit fetish on the first date. Like. I would have loved talking about Inuyasha or fma among a few others I remembered really enjoying. But nope. Anime tiddies. So when I read this I’m like… Are you sure it was the anime dude or was it maybe actually something tangentially related to the anime?

    Otoh if it really truly was the anime anon dodged a bullet anyway.

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    It’s not just girls, some people just really don’t enjoy anime… me being one of them. I have tried and tried to like it to no avail.

    So if a girl was really into anime, that would turn me off because I would assume I would have to at least listen to a lot of anime in my life.

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    I had a first date yesterday and we spent the entire time talking about anime and videogames. Sounds like OP just had bad luck.

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    I literally had a birthday picnic last sat with a bunch of incredibly attractive and intelligent women who would not shut the fuck up about bg3. Dude lost nothing of value

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      I was at a house party a couple years ago and had like a 45 minute long conversation about attack on titan with a group of women who did not seem to fit into the anime demographic at all. I didn’t even initiate it. The whole time in my head I was like “wtf is happening right now.”

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      Ive met girls who spend most of their free time gaming complain things like “all he does is game, hes going no where”. Some people have dumb standards for first impressions or are just straight up hypocrites.

      That said, in our hyper competitive online dating bullshit timeline, OP should have thought of one of their more interesting skills and hobbys, even if they don’t do it as often. Something like “sometime i cook a nice dinner on fridays” or “i like to ice fish in the winter” could have gathered more interest than just games. Even sticking to the gaming genre but mentioning a weekly board game meet sounds more attractive than solo gaming. It isn’t necessarily the most fair but we gotta sell our selves even more when trying to connect digitally. There is no body language or other aspects to observe, your handful of pictures and texting is all you got to make a shot, for example, I game more than i ice fish, gaming is less commitment in time, energy, and money, but ice fishing is the more interesting and skill diverse hobby so I’d choose that over gaming for first impressions

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        Ironically, you’re treating dating like a strategy game. Don’t.

        If you have to lie about who you are, you’re gonna get a shit deal

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          I don’t lie about who I am, i just put forward my more interesting qualities before admiting i play 2 hours of minecraft a day. I also don’t participate in online dating.

          I’d also rather a girl recomend we go ice fishing together as a date than play a game online as a date, so i often put forward my hobbies that are easier to do with other people, like mountain biking or going to a rock climbing gym in hopes of finding some common interests we can share in person.

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            Embellishing? Its still lieing to imply you mostly do broadly interesting things when you actually play minecraft for two hours a day.

            I play rocket league for a few hours a day and I would not be shy to mention that quickly. The person you replied to is right, if you put forward yourself honestly then you might actually find someone who likes you. Girls play minecraft too, in case you weren’t aware.

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    The bad ending:

    > learn not to talk about anime and gaming
    > change hobbies instantly for a woman
    > long-term relationship but miserable

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      Pros: Having sex.

      Cons: Has to know the names of everybody on Love Island.

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    Any woman that wouldn’t be interested in anime and BG3 probably wouldn’t be lasting prospect for anon anyway and that’s OK. Find a partner that has similar interests to you (and hopefully isn’t too crazy) and you’ve got a decent chance for something that can last.

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      They dont even have to have similar interests only one. Its more like anime and gaming is a veto for a lot of women and even men from my understanding. People think youre wierd if you do those. I know someone who looks like your typical gym bro so he gets a lot of attention from women but then they get turned off instantly becuase of his hobbies.

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      Sooo true! Every friend I have that has a partner/so has or is playing BG3 together. I love hearing them talk about their adventures and always giggle when they get to the romantic side of things - never any jealousy, just cheering each other on 🤭

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    Shouldn’t your dating profile already mention your interests to avoid this situation?

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    Dating scene is terrible on a good day, and sometimes dates just don’t work out. You can’t base your worth on such things.

    Also anon, she’s allowed to decide she’s not interested based on anything you did or did not say. That’s kind of how dating works.

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    Would anon want to be with someone full-time that they had to keep silent about their harmless hobbies?

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      You could replace “keep silent about their harmless hobbies” with a great many other things, and people will say yes. The hobbies thing is relatively tame compared to a great deal of self-directed changes/decisions based on the partner.

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    You mentioned you like anime, the chances for you being a pedophile and the chances of you assaulting her DRASTICALLY rose, she did the right thing by gtfo

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      Absolutely braindead take lmao

      Nobody cares if you don’t like it but to say such ridiculous inflammatory things like that about people who like different things than you is conservative tier brainrot.

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        That post was pretty unhinged I’ll say, but anime does have a somewhat troubled history with how it depicts women. Saying you spend a lot of time with anime, odds wise, could be indicative of a flawed view of women, at least from their perspective.

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    You mentioned you like anime, the chances for you being a pedophile and the chances of you assaulting her DRASTICALLY rose, she did the right thing by gtfo